I’ve been following this board and thinking to myself how lucky I am to not have people saying such ridiculous things, buuuuuuut my FMIL’s major insecurity has reared its ugly head.
First off, FI’s parents have never had too much belief in him, that’s a whole other post. When we started dating, his mom kept telling him she missed his ex, you know the one he was engaged to who had sex with other people behind his back?
Then a month into our relationship we were going to take a trip for him to meet my grandparents who were 103, in case that was our only chance (it was, thank God we went!). Well, my grandpa was a successful man (who built himself up from dire poverty), and his mom googled my last name, found out about his legacy, and assumed we were snobby aristocrats and told my then boyf that he wasn’t good enough for my family. WTF?! My family LOVES im, my aunt even said if we ever broke up he should call her and she’d fix him up somewhere else in the family, LOL!!
But then I got to know his family better, and they met my parents, and it seemed like we were all getting along. Once we got engaged, his parents immediately offered to pay for the alcohol at our wedding, which we accepted, though honestly my parents are much older, comfortably semi-retired, and expected to pay for most of my wedding (I know I am so lucky).
So last night Fiance calls me very upset, he had been at his parents’ house and his mom went on a total rant about how the people at our venue are sheisters (they are some of the most honest people and have provided amazing service thus far), our wedding is putting them in the poor house, my family should be paying for this because we’re hiding money under the mattresses, she’ll drink her money’s worth in alcohol, stuff like that. Mind you we never asked them to pay for a penny of this wedding!! AND we put their names on the invite with my parents’ names as a nice gesture even though they are paying for like 10% of the wedding!! Fiance was SO upset because his parents used to say stuff like this all the time when he was younger, trying to make him feel worthless.
Needless to say, we are having the venue refund the money his mom has paid, regardless of how much she protests to save her dignity. What a shame that people can’t just be honest and straightforward with each other. Fiance and I will be living just 3 miles from his parents, but after the wedding, I don’t think we’ll see them much.