(Closed) An often avoided subject (Very long)

posted 7 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I know you don’t exactly want too many comments, but I just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to share your brother’s story.

Post # 5
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Thank you for posting this.  I think a lot of the ignorance and hate stem from the fact that these people just don’t KNOW anyone who are LGBTQ.  Although you’re anonymous, WB is still a community, and by bringing your story to light will hopefully help others relate, even if a little bit.

Post # 6
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I recently went to hear a man who went through this speak about his operation and what he goes through on a day to day bases. I wish I could remember his name so I could find an internet link for you. But he was very informative and was willing to answer every questions that was thrown at him, no matter how offensive it was. In Canada for example, people who want to do this surgery have to do lots of psychiatric evaluation before they will be even considered for the surgery. I didn’t know that! 

I wish you and your family the best.

Post # 8
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Thank you for sharing this.  And I’m glad your brother is happier, and has such a good sister to support him.

Post # 9
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

There was a made for TV HBO Movie back in 2003 called Normal.

It was the first time I’ve ever really sat down and thought about this.

I’m a firm believer that we are born who we are. And sometimes some of us are born into the wrong body. This is still the same person you loved, grew up with and cherished. I don’t think anything changes that.

I also -not knowing too many particulars- think this is something he must have thought about for a very long time before making this huge and expensive decision. So I’m sure he understands the ramifications of it.

I won’t lie, I’m not sure how I would react if my kids were to tell me that. I think not because of acceptance more in terms of guilt and failure. I would feel like I failed and birthed my child into the wrong body. Irrational, yes. But that’s how I would feel.

I applaud you & your family for supporting your brother. I know many many families would not be able to.

Post # 10
5148 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just curious: Did your sibling have her period when she was female? Sometimes babies born with ambiguous genitalia are “assigned” a gender, usually it’s female, and that gender isn’t always what they actually are supposed to be.

Post # 11
7409 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Thanks for sharing your story.  I think it is difficult for many people to wrap their heads around just because they don’t know someone who is transsexual and the idea seems very foreign to them.  Knowing someone who is going through it gives you a much better perspective than someone just reading about it or watching it on TV. 

Post # 12
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My husband and I have a good friend from college who is also in the transition process (he’s been taking hormonal treatments for about a year).  He actually started the process in college, and while it’s been a long journey (and he still has a long way to go) he’s a very positive person.  It also helps that his parents are super supportive; his dad actually said, “Yeah, that makes sense,” when he told him he always felt like a male. 

What surprised me is that transitioning to another gender is such a long, muli-step process.  I always though it was just, go get the surgery, and you’re set, but it takes years to complete all the steps, and it can be a very painful process.  Your brother is lucky to have a supportive sister like you.  🙂  He needs your love and support.

Post # 13
347 posts
Helper bee

I think this post was beautifully written.  I support sex change 100%.  Everyone deserves to be happy.  I think it will be awhile, unfortunately, before transgendered individuals see the same support though.  You are a wonderful sister and your brother is very lucky to have you as a strong support.

Post # 14
1267 posts
Bumble bee

Your story brought tears to my eyes.  You are a wonderful sister and have gained a very brave new brother.  I have people very close to me that are gay and it is so hard and so painful for me to listen to others judge them or their ‘goodness’ without even knowing them.  I will never understand love that comes with conditions – whether that be family, friends or your neighbor.

I hope the rest of his transition goes smoothly and his life is filled with the happiness and peace he was missing.

Post # 15
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’ll be honest—I don’t know a lot or have a lot of experience with this topic. But, that said, everyone is human and deserves support and respect. Bravo to you for being so wonderfully supportive!

Post # 16
2463 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

“I’ve always thought people should be allowed to be happy with who they are as long as it isn’t hurting anyone”

YES. i agree 1000000%. your brother is so lucky to have you as a sister.

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