(Closed) An update on DH and I – getting better

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

That’s great that he’s on board for counseling and anger management. i would say that please don’t let yourself bring children into this situation until its been resolved for a significant period of time, though. I can’t imagine that it would be God’s plan to bring kids into a violent or broken home :/ Good luck! 

Post # 4
339 posts
Helper bee

I have been following your threads and have been praying for you! My Fiance has also had problems with anger too, and but never to the extent that your Darling Husband does. It can be quite taxing to be in a relationship with someone who has a problem that hurts you and is yet also very sorry and apologetic afterward. I pray that he will be able to start on the right foot from here on out, all of your steps sound extremely appropriate and very rational, thought out, and loving. Kudos to you for sticking with it and showing him love even when it got so tough and you could have left 🙂

Post # 5
1469 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Whether or not you have children is entirely up to you. 

Post # 6
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

It’s so good that he has agreed to go to anger management and more counseling. And I think it’s fantastic that you’re going to some therapy as well. I’ll be praying for lots of healing for both of you individually, as well as for your relationship as a whole.

I agree that God has a plan for you- and if a form of birth control fails, then you certainly were meant to have a child. But please also use some form of contraception, whether it be condoms, the pill, charting, an IUD, etc.

The two of you really need to focus on each other right now- a baby would really take away from the time you need to spend together to work on your relationship.

Post # 7
1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@nyscpa2be:  Oh so good to hear.  I  just told my Darling Husband “oh good, my “bee” is safe and doing better with her Darling Husband,” to which he looked at me surprised until I reminded him of the site and situation of before.

So glad to hear you Darling Husband is realizing he needs help and open to it as well as helping your marriage become stronger.  I wish you guys the best and just hope you (and your DH) always remember you should not settle for abusive scenarios and that you are a strong, smart, amazing woman. 🙂 xo

Post # 8
11270 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@nyscpa2be:  thank you for your update.  i hope that things work out the way that you hope they will.  still stay strong and safe.

Post # 9
5543 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am so glad he has decided to work on it AND that you are being smart about your own safety too. Having accountablility both with counselors and yalls pastor is a great start for him! I will continue to pray for yall. Glad forward motion is being made though! 

Post # 10
423 posts
Helper bee

@nyscpa2be:  I followed your earlier thread (and frankly speaking I was quite worried for you that night) I’m really glad that there is progress in your relationship. I am hoping and praying that the two of you will be able to work things out. As for children, it is great that you are keeping an open mind. However, I would suggest that you at least hold off till your husband completes his therapy. 

Post # 11
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Are things still going OK? I’ve been following since the last thread. I hope your finals went great and that these next few weeks are ones of rest and relaxation! Please keep us updated. You and your husband are in my thoughts.

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