(Closed) anal sex?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

key thing is to stay relaxed.. and lube!!! not the warming lube tho(found out the hard way).  its deff uncomfortable for the “tip” but once hes in, its kinda just pressure, i also find it uncomfortable when removing.. but try to stay relaxed(i know easier said then done)

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

As a woman who really likes anal sex, I feel like I am qualified to give you some advice.  Relaxation is the key.  Foreplay, oral, and vaginal sex are essential.  If you can have an orgasm before from one of these, then you’ll be more relaxed.  Also, he can’t just stick it in.  Have him use lube and work his fingers (one at a time) slowly into your anus.  Rubbing your clit during this will help.  When he can comfortablely fit 2 or 3 fingers into your anus, then I would suggest moving to actual anal sex.  Going slowly at first is important so nothing hurts or tears.

Trust me – anal sex can feel extremely good when the man takes his time.  Anal orgasms are amazing!  Unfortunately, I think a lot of woman have had bad experiences were guys have just tried to “stick it in there” without prep and consideration.  These bad experiences turn women off trying it again.   

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@praline13:  YOu know, we have anul sex and it doesnt hurt so much but no orgasms. How do you get an orgasm this way? 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Eh, neither of us are really a fan.  There are plenty of other things we do that we like a lot more. 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Mrs.Jansen:  I have anal orgasms from hand stimulation.  With 2 or 3 fingers, curved downward toward vaginal wall (if in doggie), apply pressure while going in and out.  Similar to the motion for hitting the g-spot vaginally.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’ve tried before, but it’s definitely not for me.  I feel weird pressure and become uncomfortable.  

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Darling Husband and I will do it on occasion. I definitely have to be in the mood but when I am, it feels really good and gives a very different yet intense orgasm.

You have to use lots of lube, go very slowly, and relax. Darling Husband knows to back off immeadiately if I say anything and he’s very respectful about it.

It certainly isn’t a consistent part of our sex lives but it does make the occasional appearance.

Question to those who have done it: Darling Husband and I quit using condoms after we got engaged for everything but anal. For some reason, the thought of him coming back there without a condom just weirds me out. Plus it makes clean-up way easier and give a little extra lubrication. Anyone else feel the same or am I odd?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Mrs.KMM:  Usually when we are ready for anul, we have already done pretty much everything and I have had an orgasm or two so he will just finish that way.  I just wish I could have an orgasm when we are doing it that way. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

@Mrs.KMM:  not weird at all if you ask me! I enjoy anal but will definitely always require a condom with it…the thought of him jizzing back there skeeves me out a bit, and i’m not sure it would be worth the mess! condoms don’t bother me in the least during anal 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I noticed non of the other bees mentioned this. But dont switch back and forth from anal to vaginal. It can cause problems/infections. So Im a big advicated for condoms for anal. That way if it hurts or your just not into it, your man can take it off and your good to go!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel like when the topic is “Anal Sex?” there should be a poll involved. 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We have anal sex about once a week and I enjoy it.  Even when we are not having anal sex, I have a toy up my rear cause I love the double penetration feeling.  Anal sex is not for everyone, it takes time to get used to.  Lots of lube and relaxation is the key. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@praline13:  Excellent advice.

OP, we also do it and it’s amazing but it requires relaxation, open communication and patience.

Give it a shot, you might love it!!

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