- 6 years ago
Help me choose; there are so many and I’ve got analysis paralysis!
Context: We will be having a ranch wedding in Hawaii. The theme is pretty rustic but with a hint of class (barn reception with chandeliers and hanging cafe lights, outdoor ceremony overlooking the ocean). I already have to budget a lot for the wedding and reception (due to everything needing to be shipped in from the outside), so I was really thinking that I shouldn’t go too overboard with my dress. But once I started trying dresses on; the bridezilla in me got the best of me and I started to fall in love with dresses which were more than I thought I would be budgeting.
As far as my personality: to most people I’m kind of a sweet, quiet, humble girl but my best girlfriends know me to be wild and spontaneous. I love flowers and nature; love animals; love to DANCE and be active (I’m a runner and soccer player too); and love things with a bit of cultural influence (I’m bicultural and have lived in many places across the world). I like color and so am drawn to dresses that are more off-white (such as champagne/nude).
So now, onto the dresses… what do you think?
A and B are the cheapest (between $300 and $400) and definitely within my budget. “A” is being worn by my friend who found it on the mainland (I live in Hawaii) and thought it was “me.” I think it’s darling but I can’t help but think that the flowers make it feel less classy and more kid-like. She bought it and will send it to me to try on (she says it’s easily returnable at any Nordstrom Rack). I might look different in it than she does, because she is tiny (the dress is a size 4 which is what I am; she would be a zero or less). B is super simple and I tried it on at a local boutique; meant to be a bridesmaid dress maybe but with a veil it is quite lovely and simple. No frills about it; easy to move around in; but not so spectacular maybe– no details, doesn’t really accentuate my body so much.
C and D are similar styles (keyhole back) but different in many ways. C is a lot cheaper ($700), D is $1350 (on sale). What I liked about C was that it had the cool back detail without a heavy pricetag. What I didn’t like so much was the color (it’s ivory but felt a little bit yellow; maybe it was the lighting?) and I am torn as to whether I would prefer a style of dress that hugs my curves more (like a trumpet/mermaid style). D has a nicer color and I LOVE the lace detail on it, but I didn’t like the beading on the cap sleeves and I still felt kind of plain in it. And D is beyond what I was hoping to spend.
E and F are the dresses I think best fit my figure. I think E is gorgeous, and it works out slightly cheaper than F ($1000 vs. $1350)– it’s my third favorite. But so far F is my “F”avorite. I call it the “dragon dress” because the way the train comes out it looks like dragon scales (like from a dragon on chinese new years). This dress got me a LOT of validation at the store and I felt sooooo good wearing it! My only concerns with this dress is that it’s over my budget, and I worry if the design is too over the top (less elegant and more “party…”). Then again, that is somewhat me. I can be over the top, but only with the people I’m most comfortable with. I think people that don’t know me and see me in it would kind of be in for a surprise.
G and H were two others I tried on at the boutique I tried “A” at. These two were from an Ashley & Justin trunk show, and were on sale but for that day only (and I didn’t want to make a final decision without trying other dresses first). These two were among the first dresses I tried on. G has to be the favorite dress among the people I’ve asked for their opinion so far (people who know me), and is probably my 2nd favorite dress overall. I think it is because of the intricate lace design and the detail on the train. I like everything about G except for three things: I don’t think the sweetheart cut without straps really suits me, if you look really closely at the lace the detail is kind of over a fishnet-ish-looking overlay that bothers me a bit, and I was hoping for a more dramatic back than this dress has. G is close to $1200 (not on sale). H is also an Ashley & Justin, also a pretty lace and has a lower back. This dress too doesn’t really do a lot for my boobs , the spaghetti strap is kind of plain (though the boutique says I can put lace etc. over the straps to make it nicer), but it hugs my body nicely and has a low back. H is about $900.
Here is a closeup of G… (sorry not sure why it came out sideways)
Anyway; any feedback is good. My original budget for dresses was going to be $600; now based on my taste and everything I’ve tried on it looks like maybe my budget isn’t so realistic unless I keep looking or unless I’m willing to settle…
Any thoughts much appreciated!