(Closed) And everyone is…. ANYWHERE BUT HERE!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I know it can be a bit frustrating trying to do a lot of things by yourself! Unfortunately you know that cliche about how nobody cares about your wedding as much as you do – it’s true. I am sure they are all so happy and excited for you, it’s just that no one can match the enthusiasm of a bride who is in love and about to be married! Try to focus on all the wonderful things they HAVE done (helping financially, partcipating in the wedding as MOH). They have done these things to show they love you, so focus on them and you’ll feel so much better 🙂

Post # 4
Member
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I know how you feel, and you are not alone. My best friend ditched me completely after I got engaged. She never even met my fiance! He lived 2 1/2 hours away from me so whenever he came to see me she was always “busy.” The day we got engaged I called her immediately. She was like a sister to me. That day she told me she would call me back. I havent heard from her since. Not one text, call, email, etc. She also ditched a few of our mutual friends that she knew would never stop being friends with me just because she no longer wanted to. 

Some other friends who I was less close to also changed dramatically from being super excited to see me to practically avoiding me. Its the reality of todays world I guess. I have two very closely related cousins who live in my state, one lives 10 minutes away while the other lives 40. They hang out with each other but dont ever come by to see me or call me. I have run into one of them and she at least congratulated me. The other never has. Does it hurt? Hell yea! But at the end of the day when I count my blessings, I would rather lose every single friend I have or have ever had than not have my fiance. He is the greatest thing to ever come into my life. I was in pieces when he met me. As corny as it may sound he put me back together again. I know that one day my ex best friend will regret that she did what she did. The girls she is now “close” with are very fickle and generally only keep others around for as long as they need them. I know for sure that she will need me one day and I wont be there. 

 

It could always be worse my dear. People act crazy when its wedding time for someone they know. People get scared of expectations or obligations. Its the way things go for everyone I know. I hope you have a beautiful wedding and it all comes together. I hope that at least one of these people comes around. But remember, even if they dont, and even if things go wrong, you are getting married to someone you love and loves you right back. Your future will be bright! Hope all goes well. Keep your head up 🙂

Post # 5
Member
1468 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

That’s crazy. I can so see that happening to me. Smh

 

Some people just know how to influence others and get what they want. It’s a combination of communication style, personality, confidence, and charisma. I would google and read about some approaches you can take to effectively get people to do things for you without sounding like you’re giving orders. That’s what I would do….after I cried 🙂

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