- 10 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
I’m not even sure if this is the right place to put this, but I wasn’t sure where it should go. I don’t need advice or anything – I’ve just had a bad day and feel like venting a bit of my frustration.
As I’ve said, today has been a bad day already, and I know I shouldn’t take this personally but I just got home to find a wedding invitation on the table.
My fiance is going to be the Best Man in a good high school buddy’s wedding. It’s out-of-state and we’re poor college students trying to save up for our own wedding (which we had started planning first), and it also means having to miss my family reunion in the Philippines, which falls in the same month and I was really hoping my fiance and I could attend so he could meet my mother’s side of the family before our wedding. In addition to that, with my fiance as the Best Man, I will officially be at a huge wedding not knowing hardly a single person (a big deal for me because I have extreme social anxiety and would never even consider attending an event like this if it didn’t mean so much to my fiance). I’m already quite frustrated with all of this, if you can’t tell.
I digress. Today we received the invitation in the mail, and it is addressed to “[Fiance’s name] & Guest”. Really? He’s supposed to be your BEST MAN, and you can’t take two seconds out of your time to recall, ask, or Facebook stalk him to find out his fiance’s name? We’ve been engaged for seven months now, living together (the address is even MY address because it was technically my place) for three years, and dating for even longer!
I know it’s something really dumb to get upset about, but my feelings are really hurt. This isn’t the first time I’ve gotten the vibe from some of my fiance’s friends and family that I’m not a static part of his life, which isn’t the case at all. This guy knows that I exist and who I am. Why the rudeness? If I were inviting a friend to the wedding (even if they were just a regular guest and not my Bridesmaid or Maid of Honor!), I would feel so embarrassed and feel as if I’m being terribly insensitive if I didn’t invite their significant other by name.
I’m just feeling really hurt right now, and when I made a comment aloud about it my fiance got kind of upset with me, which didn’t help. I’m just fed up with this whole event overall. For me, it seems far more hassle than it’s worth to bail out on my family, put our own wedding in the backseat, shell out $300 a night on a hotel, all just to sit alone with a bunch of people who couldn’t care more about me than I do them. Part of me wishes I could just let my fiance go alone since he’ll be busy with all his Best Man stuff anyway and we won’t even get to sit together, but I know deep down that isn’t an option.
-sigh- What do you ladies think?