(Closed) And guest?…

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
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1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We invited any boyfriends/girlfriends that guests had been dating for at least a few months.  We put all of their names on the invitations.  The only person whose invitation said “and guest” was a single woman from my Mother-In-Law office, who wouldn’t know many people at the wedding.  She actually chose to invite a friend of Mother-In-Law, which was fine.

I think it’s all about what you want to do!  If you can afford to give ‘and guest’ to all adults, go for it.

Post # 18
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

we are just doing if you have been dating someone for a longer period of time or they are your fiance or husband or wife. Luckily all of my friends are young and single so hopefully they will all pair up at the wedding!

Post # 20
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1267 posts
Bumble bee

@JennyW1:

Lol – you don’t have to give me a disclaimer, I’m probably the least sensitive poster here 😛  You won’t offend me if you disagree, I promise but I think you’re even sweeter now for adding it!!

Anyway, I agree that sometimes people feel put out to find a guest when single (although I’m usually my bestie’s +1, lol) but the nice thing about always giving them a +1 is that you give them the option of having someone join them that they’d like to share the day with or declining the ‘and guest’ part and coming by themselves.  I would be pretty put out to go to a wedding alone if I didn’t really know anyone (or if they all had dates at the table) but I would probably go to the ceremony and reception and leave before dinner – I hate eating alone or making small talk with strangers while eating.  But it could be that I’m just a high maintenance bish….:P  Either way, we would make sure that any single person (you couldn’t possibly know all of your friends/extended families dating situations anyway) would be invited with a guest and then add that into our total budget.  One other important note, we wouldn’t take money from either of our parents to pay for our wedding, either, so that could make a big difference.  When someone else is paying for your wedding then you have that guilt about them paying for extra people or stuff, I think, or at least you have the potential to feel guilty about it I guess.

ETA: I was also going to add that I think it’s regional but I always end up mentioning that so I didn’t want to say it first, lol

Post # 21
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724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We are inviting anyone who has what they consider a significant other, plus the wedding party gets a guest even if they’re single. But if they are definitely single, they don’t get to just bring someone from the fun of it. I’m not paying $50 a head for someone’s friend.

Post # 22
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245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Anyone 21+ got “& guest”.  We both have some single cousins, aunts and uncles who are older, and we felt that they should get the option (most of them won’t take it), but it was hard to justify my single 30 yr old cousin getting a guest but not my single 25-year old cousin.  If we lowered it to 18+, it would’ve added about 20 more people, which we just couldn’t afford.

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