Definitely an Etiquette Faux-Pas… so I totally get why you feel slighted / insulted… more so because you guys obviously have a close relationship with “the man” in this two-some
As others have said, there are a variety of reasons HOW this might have happened.
1- Groom-2-B addressed the Invites… and didn’t know any better
2- Bride addressed the Invites… and didn’t have a clue about Wedding Etiquette
3- Someone else (or a service) addressed the Invites… and wasn’t given the info that they needed to do the job properly
Ya it sucks…
Unfortunately, this is one of those things that is discussed many times here on the WBee ETIQUETTE BOARDS on WHY knowing a bit of proper social etiquette is important in life (particularly so when it comes to an event like a Wedding)…
However, there will always be those who don’t know… or worse… don’t care about the impression they make with others
In the long run, it is there loss as it does reflect badly on them (too bad that is “the key element” they don’t understand / are missing out on) because there are social opportunities LOST due to such a faux-pas
NOW… IF THAT IS YOUR QUESTION…
Whether you still choose to have “the man” as a member of your Bridal Party is up to you and your Hubby.
Obviously, as there seems to be a disconnect in regards to Wedding Etiquette overall… there could be issues in regards to his understanding of the role in regards to the requirement of commitment of time and funds to the position… something you’d want to be really clear with him up front.
Otherwise, it would SUCK if he took on the role too casually, saying YES, only later to let you guys down in regards to participation because he hasn’t a clue as to the proper Wedding Etiquette… (certainly have been stories here on WBee previously about members of the Bridal Party backing out last minute, or not able to perform their duties because of time or financial restraints)
Certainly, something to think about as you make these all important choices