Post # 1
We have decided not to use inner envelopes. Should we just write and guest on the outer envelope? I am doing my best to find out from close friends who they would be bringing if they invited a guest that way we can put their name, but some have girlfriends/boyfriends that might not still be together by the time the invitation arrives! So should I put and guest or what???
Post # 3
We had the same issue. I called/emailed everyone and asked if there was a "special lady friend" (or man friend) who I should include on the invitation. I let them make the decision whether they wanted their g.f./b.f on the envelope.
When people responded with a name, I included it on the front of the envelope with the woman’s name first and the man’s name on the next line (only use "and" if they’re married). When there was no special lady friend I just wrote the guests’s name and & guest.
We had a handful of people who are in new relationships request the & guest option.
Post # 4
We didnt’ use inner enverlopes and I just had the and guest on the outter. No one got offended by that. They like to know if it’s okay to bring someone and I think if the SO and the person you’re addressing the envelope to aren’t living together, they aren’t going to see the envelope anyway.
Post # 5
We’re not using inner envelopes either. We are putting specific names on the outer envelopes of SO’s that are with our friends because we have made a rule that we are not allowing guests unless they have been with that person for a while and are in a seriuos relationship. So if we put the SO’s actual name and they break up we’re hoping they won’t take that to mean they can just bring someone else.
Post # 6
Printing evelopes tonight. Inner envelopes were one more step I just couldn’t handle. I did the same as SoonToBeWalsh – We would love to have those who are in serious relationships, but there are too many people to have lots of "and guests" that we don’t know and truly would not add any enjoyment to our celebration.
Post # 7
We just wrote "and guest" on the outer envelopes, because we didn’t have an outer envelope, either. Only if we knew someone was seriously dating someone and would definitely be bringing them did we add the guests name. I think it’s fine to do that, some of our guests didn’t know who they were bringing until the last minute anyway!