(Closed) “And Guest” on save the dates?

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

IMO, the STD isn’t an invitation – its just a heads up to get the date on your calendar, and make a hotel reservation or buy a plane ticket if you have to.  So I just addressed it to the primary person or couple (leaving off any SOs that aren’t live-in, and also leaving off kids).  I presume that people will call if they have questions about those sorts of things.  The main confusion we have had (from a couple of guys) is as to whether they needed to RSVP – even though the STD said "Formal Invitation to Follow."  I did have one single guy call to tell me that he hoped I wasn’t going to nag him to bring a date, or try to set him up with a single friend!!

Post # 4
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

ITA with Suzanno – it’s not an invite, just a heads up. It’s fine to address it to just the person recieveing it.

Post # 5
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - Catholic Church and Reception at The W Hotel

I’m planning on doing the same as suzanno when we send out our Save The Dates. You never know what could happen in the six months between sending them out and the wedding. I just want to make sure the main person I’m inviting remembers not to schedule anything else for that day.

 We are also putting formal invitation to follow, so, to me, that makes it seem like this is just a casual heads up, not a formal invite with who exactly can come!

 Hope this helps a bit!

Post # 7
212 posts
Helper bee

I labeled our save the dates with Miss Jane Doe & Guest.  I wanted to let them know they can bring a guest so they can make arrangements appropriately.  I think if they break up with their SO before my wedding, they probably wouldn’t bring anyone and even if they did, I don’t mind since I already budgeted for the "Plus one"

Post # 8
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I addressed them to the "main invitee"…if that invitee has a SO that I knew, I also put their names, but for those who will have a guest (that I dont know), I didnt write "and guest".

 Like PPs have said, its not an invitation, its just a heads up.  If you know the invitee’s SO’s name, definitely address it to both guests.  But if you know the person is single but youre still allowing them a guest, I would just stick with their name only.

Post # 9
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m going to agree with the majority– we’re probably just going to address it to the main person for the Save-The-Date Cards.  I’m sure if it comes down to someone hesitating to book a flight/hotel room if they’re not sure about their SO being invited, they’ll probably call or email someone involved with the planning.

Post # 10
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I’m sending out our save the dates this week for our wedding in November.  We are planning on just addressing them to the primary invite because as you said you have no idea if the couple will be together.

I had our wedding website added to the save the date… I’ve put all the hotel and time information there so people can begin booking hotel/ airfare. 

I’m thinking I might add a note on site regarding the +guests/ seroius relationships only…. that way the information is presented somewhat informally but its known right off the bat random dates are not invited… unless they pay for their plate

Post # 11
267 posts
Helper bee

I put "and guest" on my save the dates. Primarily because that was the way I’d entered the names into my master guest list spreadsheet and I was using mail merge for my envelopes, but also because if people are going to be making plane and hotel reservations ahead of time (which is a major reason for save the dates, since plane tickets are usually cheaper in advance), they ought to know if they need to book for two instead of one. Just a thought.

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