Post # 1
I’m almost to the point where I’ll be addressing my invites. I was wondering if I should include an ‘and guest’ for people that I KNOW are are not going to bring a surprise guest. Such as – I have several single aunts and uncles that are not married or dating anyone (and don’t really date for that matter). And I think it’s almost a slap in the face to put "and guest" when they don’t have anyone to bring as a guest.
At the same time I plan on putting ‘and guest’ on my single younger cousins/friends invites and some of my co-workers, since I’m not sure if they are dating someone and I’d like to give them the option to bring someone if they want to.
Is this hyprocrital of me to put ‘and guest’ for some people and not for others? This is not a ‘size’ issue either, I would be happy to let anyone bring a guest that would like to. But part of me just feels weird putting ‘and guest’ on someones invite that I know will not bring a guest.
please tell me I’m not alone on this issue 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception
For the younger folks, I put "and Guest", but for my Grandmother, who’s husband passed away 2 years ago, I just addressed the invite to her. I also did the same for her 80 year old brother in law; it didn’t make sense to say "and Guest" when I know that they are not even remotely dating. I thought it might be more of a slap in the face.
Post # 4
Thank god you all agree with me! I was wondering what to do with my older aunts and uncles. Not to mention my FI’s grandfather’s invitation…his wife just passed away and I could not rationalize putting "and guest" on his invitation without feeling like a huge jerk!
Post # 5
I think it would be ok to give your younger counsins, friends and co-workers guests and not your older aunts and uncles. Maybe you could talk to your mom and dad about it and see what they think. Maybe let them know that these people are welcome to bring a guest if they would like but to not feel obligated to do so. They could pass this info along to them if they hear anything.
Post # 6
I had some relatives like that and just put and guest anyway. I knew they wouldn’t bring anyone. But I didn’t want them to feel like they were treated differently. It didn’t occur to me that they would feel like it was a slap in the face. "And guest" is an offer, not a requirement.
Post # 7
I think that’s very thoughtful of you. No breach of ettiquette at all!