(Closed) “and guest” question?

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

For the younger folks, I put "and Guest", but for my Grandmother, who’s husband passed away 2 years ago, I just addressed the invite to her. I also did the same for her 80 year old brother in law; it didn’t make sense to say "and Guest" when I know that they are not even remotely dating. I thought it might be more of a slap in the face.

Post # 4
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Thank god you all agree with me!  I was wondering what to do with my older aunts and uncles.  Not to mention my FI’s grandfather’s invitation…his wife just passed away and I could not rationalize putting "and guest" on his invitation without feeling like a huge jerk!

Post # 5
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it would be ok to give your younger counsins, friends and co-workers guests and not your older aunts and uncles. Maybe you could talk to your mom and dad about it and see what they think. Maybe let them know that these people are welcome to bring a guest if they would like but to not feel obligated to do so. They could pass this info along to them if they hear anything.

Post # 6
2640 posts
Sugar bee

I had some relatives like that and just put and guest anyway.  I knew they wouldn’t bring anyone.  But I didn’t want them to feel like they were treated differently.  It didn’t occur to me that they would feel like it was a slap in the face.   "And guest" is an offer, not a requirement.

Post # 7
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I think that’s very thoughtful of you.  No breach of ettiquette at all!

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