Post # 1
So planning our wedding has so far been a blast! I’ve gone crazy at the craft stores, found a place, figured out how I want the invites to look, picked colors, my bridal party and the list goes on. But the one thing that makes me cringe and makes me want to turn around and say forget that, is the dress. Yup I said it. I. Hate. Wedding. Dress. Shopping. Period! I have gone twice, once with my bridesmaid and once with my mom and both times I shut down and tried on what they picked out for me. I dont know what gets to me when I walk in the doors of a store that is nothing but beautiful gowns and its all about me. I love dresses, dressing up and looking pretty, but wedding dresses make my heart stop.
My first run was fun. I enjoyed picking dresses and starting to feel like a bride. But I kept getting so discouraged because I am not skinny, I’m very curvy. I feel like there aren’t dresses made for people that look like me. I didnt feel pretty in anything and I just wanted to take them off imediatly after I tried them on. NOT GOOD!
I dont know what to do. I can’t get over the fact that I will never look as good as I want, and nothing scares me more than looking back at my wedding pictures and not seeing the wedding, but seeing a fat roll here or a flabby arm there… It is just depressing. I work 45 hours a week, cook, clean, do laundry and take care of family. I dont have time to work out, and I am broke, so eating healthy doesnt come easy.
Sorry for the rant, but I’m just discouraged. I wish I could enjoy dress shopping more and could find something that makes me feel beautiful and like a bride.
Anyone else have discouraging steps along the way? What has stopped you dead in your tracks in the planning process? Am I alone feeling this way?
Post # 3
Okay, I’m a size 14 street, 16 bridal. That is my size now, two months out from my wedding. Until a year ago (which mind you was three years after we met) I’d been a 10. The simple answer is yes – I’ve been there. I have put on dresses that made me feel horrible – but by the time I got around to dress perfection? It was the best feeling.
The part that stopped me in my tracks was when the first DB consultant I met with kept trying to jam me into a bridal 14 and then hold the back and say ‘just imagine!’ sorry lady, I’m not going to be able to imagine myself thinner when you are making me feel heavier than I am by saying OH ITS SO CLOSE TO ZIPPING!
I’m also apple/pear shaped, I carry my weight in my belly, butt and thighs. It’s hard to find a gown that can flatter that style since most dresses today are aimed at the fit and flare style or have a dropped waist.
I’d advise looking for a dress with built in structure and boning in the bodice. I’m in a David’s Bridal dress, style CT314. See how I have a waist? HAHHAHAHA I have ZERO waist otherwise. The right cut will make all of the difference.
Post # 4
Wow that dress is beautiful! And yeah, they did the same thing to me, they had a dress that I tried on but didnt have it in white, so they tried to shove my arms through the white version (which was a size 4) and said, just imagine! That made me feel even worse. Thanks DB consultants for making me feel like I’m an Epic Bridal FAIL! UGH…
Thanks for sharing though. I Love your dress and now I feel less hopeless 🙂
Post # 5
@Fire: Do you have a different store nearby? I went to one store with horrid service and another one about 45 minutes the other way and had AMAZING service. DB can be very hit and miss.. but ultimately you are going to have the best most realistic selection there as a curvy bride. 🙂