Post # 1
Hi bees ! So my wedding is about 4 months away and this past weekend my Fiance and the groomsmen got measured for their suits. Everything went well, we got a great deal and i’m so glad to have one less thing to worry about !
Anyways, something ridiculous happened to me this weekend and i wanted to share with you to see if this is totally normal or if i am right in thinking this is crazy. Here goes my rant…
One of our Groomsmen is a friend of my Fiance, we have know him since high school. I actually met him freshman year while my Fiance met him during our senior year (when he came to my school). He is the person who introduced us so i think it’s awesome that he’s in our bridal party. This weekend, during the fitting, this Groomsmen talked to us about a dilemma he has. Apparently his wife is very jealous that he is going to be paired up with another woman (one of our bridesmaid) and so he asked us if she can be in the bridal pary and be one of the bridesmaid ?! WHAT ON EARTH ? Who does this ? I’ve heard about people flat out asking for an invitation but someone asking to be a bridesmaid ?? I have 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man, my sister who is Maid/Matron of Honor, a cousin, Future Sister-In-Law, and a college friend i’ve known for years and is helping me out. I’ve only seen this woman twice in my life. Also this particular Groomsmen would be paired up with Future Sister-In-Law and she is 16 ! I am not asking for them to dance together or even sit together, all i want is for them to walk together during the procesional and of course to be in the wedding pics.
We politely told him that um NO … haha… well not flat out “no” because we didn’t want to be rude, but we said it’s too late to add people, dresses have been ordered, that nothing inappropriate will be going on and such.
The things we have to deal with !
Post # 3
@MrsC2014: Wow. That lady has PROBLEMS. Feel sorry for the GM!
Post # 4
@MrsC2014: Oh my. That’s a new one for me. Psychoooooooo!
Post # 5
@MrsC2014: holy S on a cracker, that lady has issues! SERIOUS issues. Rant away girl! Chick has mad jealousy and distrust issues…
I’m so glad you didn’t agree!
Post # 6
@MrsC2014: I feel sorry for that man dealing with her insecurities.
Post # 7
You did the right thing. How strange.
Post # 8
@MrsC2014: Never heard that one before- how bizarre!!
Post # 9
This is truly bonkers. She’s coming across as desperately needy and worryingly jealous and of course you shouldn’t be including her as a bridesmaid in these circumstances.
I wonder if it would help if the words “pairing up” are taken out of the equation though. Only they are bound to be a bit of a trigger to someone so clearly irrational! Instead, she needs to be told that her husband will walk down the aisle next to someone (that’s what happens at weddings!) in full view of everyone present. When photographs are done, he’ll have to stand next to someone. Sometimes it might be your DH. At other times, the whole bridal party. But again, these are formal wedding pictures. Not snapshots from a Roman orgy.
Regardless of what you do to put her fears at rest, this level of jealousy must make her damned near impossible to live with though. Her husband must find this all very difficult and not a little embarassing.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
We had a jealousy situation like this at my BFFs wedding, but no one asked her if the woman could be in the wedding party! She just had to deal with it. She was the SO of the Bridesmaid or Best Man and I was the Maid/Matron of Honor. She stared daggers at us while walking down the aisle. The worst part was that my BFF had a bridal party dance – the whole time I had to dance with the Bridesmaid or Best Man and he kept telling me how angry it was probably making his girlfriend. I think the whole wedding made her angry to be honest. She had been with him for 5-6 years and I think the waiting was getting to her.
Post # 11
@MrsC2014: Um, how old is his wife, 14? Seriously, I know teenagers with less insecurity issues. Good for you for standing your ground.
I feel bad for the Groomsmen and his partnered-up 16-year-old Bridesmaid or Best Man as she may be the recipient of some dagger eyes from Crazy Wifey.
Post # 12
Wow. That is just so sad. He must have been mortified to even have to ask that. What a nut job!!
Post # 13
That does sound a little on the psycho side. However, I can’t help but wonder if SHE was actually crazy enough to have him ask for her to be in the bridal party, or if HE thought that maybe since he was close with you guys, HE decided to ask?
Post # 14
@MrsC2014: I can’t believe she would have him ask that. You’re right to feel put off… how bizarre!
Post # 15
That is SO bizarre!
I could maybe understand it if, let’s say, her husband would be walking with his college ex-GF that the thought seriously about marrying (or, worse, his actual ex-wife or something)
But I’m pretty sure he’s not going to get into any trouble with your 16 year old sister!