Post # 32
That’s ridiculous, and says something bad about their marriage. To be extremely jealous of walking another woman for 10 seconds to her spot in the ceremony is not exactly a sign of a strong marriage… even more so that it is a 16 year old!!
Post # 33
@MrsC2014: Wow! How extra weird of her. I can’t even imagine being that insecure. Her poor husband for having to even ask that of you lol
Post # 34
Their marriage could be just fine- now. But I would bet that her insecurity will take its’ toll on the marriage eventually. He is likely to interpret her actions as not trusting him.
Post # 35
Exactly ! Or if it were someone who has feelings for him maybe but really a child ? -_-
Exactly ! He said how she is from a different country and has a different culture so she doesn’t understand how things work -___- um what ? She is Brazilian. I’m pretty sure the role of a Groomsmen isn’t much different back where she’s from. Unless things really are different over there? Idk.
WOW ! That is crazy ! , so sorry your cousin had to deal with that, i’m glad she didn’t make a scene.
I just don’t get how people think it’s okay to ask to be a bridesmaid, i would be completely embarrassed. I don’t even know her ! I’ve only seen her twice and she seems like a nice person but this was just so weird.
I didn’t want to be mean 🙁 i hate hurting people’s feelings.
Post # 36
This is pretty funny…even though it’s ridiculous for her to be uncomfortable at all, I’m going to try and give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn’t put him up to asking. Groomsmen just asked randomly, being a guy and thinking this would solve everything.
Post # 37
I consider myself a jealous person too, at least i used to be at the beginning of our relationship, but this is just insane haha.
I know ! This is childish. It’s jealously out of control. I think he understood after we talked to him but i could see it in his face that he was upset. He mentioned that she didn’t know why she wasn’t part of the bridal party since we know each other. Um what ?? She seems nice and all but i don’t know her like that. She’s not even someone i would call a “friend” let alone ask her to be a bridesmaid.
Post # 38
If she’s not American, then I can understand that things can be totally different. I would actually probably assume that it’s COMPLETELY different for weddings there. She probably has no concept of what it means to the bride and groom. Free pass, in my book.
Post # 39
yeah that’s what i think too. She probably told him how she was jealous or whatever and he, just like you said being a guy, had this awesome idea … haha. I feel bad for even talking about this because it’s not even worrying me right now. We handled the situation right away, and if for any reason he decides to step down well he and his wife would still be invited to the wedding and we have a Groomsmen replacement in mind. I just hope he doesn’t wait until the day of the wedding to do this ! Now that would just piss me off! I had to share this because this is definitely a new one hahaha
Post # 40
Yeah i’ll give her that. I’m not American either, i was raised here but i’m from the caribbean. That’s one of the things Fiance discussed, that maybe weddings are different in her country. It’s quite possible.
Post # 41
@MrsC2014: dadgone she has some serious trust issues. I highly doubt the Groomsmen will stick his dong in the Bridesmaid or Best Man while he’s walking her down the aisle.
She needs a massive chill pill.
Post # 42
haha yes to the chill pill. I feel so bad for Groomsmen, he hasn’t talked to her yet and wants us to talk to her instead.
Post # 43
@MrsC2014: I feel bad for the poor Groomsmen. I guarantee you his wife made him ask and it really put him in a bad position. She sounds a little looney..
Post # 44
@MrsC2014: She is jealous that he’ll be walking beside a 16 year old?? I can’t even believe he had the nerve to ask for her to be in the bridal party, that is just flat out embarrassing. Who asks to be in a bridal party?!?! especially of a person they don’t even know! I’m shocked by this. Sorry you’re dealing with that kind of ridiculous behaviour.
Post # 45
I was the best man’s date when the wedding party sat at a head table (sans dates) and then danced together. I was very glad to know people so I wasn’t sitting with strangers. Maybe she thought it would be like that too, and that made her uncomfortable? Not that that excuses wanting the honor of being a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Maybe if she knew it was just a matter of walking down the aisle with a 16 year old, and nothing else, she wouldn’t be concerned.
Post # 46
Fiance and I had a chat with Groomsmen (his wife wasn’t there) and we tried to expained things in a nice manner. We told him he will just be walking next to Bridesmaid or Best Man, and stand next to her for the pro photos. We told him he’ll be with his wife all night long and he doesn’t have to dance with Bridesmaid or Best Man or sit with her. We even explained that the Bridesmaid or Best Man that he will be walking with is FI’s little sister. Fiance is VERY protective of his little sister so there is no way (even if Groomsmen was single and interested) that anything would EVER happen.
I was sure that after telling Groomsmen all of this he would go ahead and talk to his wife and she would feel relieved but he is afraid of talking to her ! which means that even after knowing all of this she still won’t be happy.