(Closed) And i thought people asking for an invitation was rude ….

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 63
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@MrsC2014:  This is some nutty stuff! I feel for you!

Any updates?

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@shanbp:  I am surprised! I had always heard that it is bad luck to walk down the aisle with your spouse at someone else’s wedding. I was in a friend’s wedding years ago. I walked with a married male groomsmen. His wife walked with the guy I was seeing. We were all friends and there were no issues.

Post # 66
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@MrsC2014:  ummm.. weird, I don’t think its you. Thats rude! If I were him I’d be awkard to even ask you? I mean she is 16 maybe she doesn’t really know or get the whole picture of the wedding that this isn’t about her? or if she has a different religion but at the same time that’s just really weird esp when she doesn’t really know you and only met her twice? 

(when i read your post i started laughing…lol too weird–about the girl..not you)

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@MrsC2014:  I can’t believe he is still refusing to talk to his own wife!

I would be getting snippy with him about this, for all you know she could be gearing herself up for it now! She need to be put in her place, this is not something you want to spiral out of control with miscommunication, lack of communication, bad excuses etc.

Post # 69
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

What the hell.

You did the right thing, that lady has issues.

Post # 70
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@MrsC2014:  Why is she coming with you guys!! This is absolutely ridiculous! Tell her NO, there’s no room, period. I’m sorry but at this point I would tell the Groomsmen to kick rocks (nicely), and have the back up step in. Tell him there is no room at all for her in the limo and that because him being a Groomsmen seems to be causing a lot of stress for them and is an inconvenience for his wife, it is in everyone’s best interest that he not be a Groomsmen and therefore can spend every second of the day with his insane wife. 

Also, tell him to grow a pair. 

ETA: Who made this decision that she can just come along, anyways? Because it doesn’t sound like it was run by you first. Regardless, you’re the bride and overrule it.  

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

Yikes! The groomsman needs to learn to stand up to his wife and not be so afraid of her.

Question though? Is she new to the area or country? She might just be feeling lonely and without friends and this is making her very clingy to her husband and insecure. She might want to come to the photos because she doesn’t know anyone else at the wedding and doesn’t want to stand on her own while the pictures are taken. 

If this is the case you could try introducing her to some people so she will feel more relaxed. Or maybe give her a nominal job, like manning the guest book, so she has something to do and feels included? 

 

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@MrsC2014:  What?! No!

 

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@Diamond84:  Exactly what I was thinking – who got to make that decision? Because it is YOUR decision to make. Tell her no, tell him no. Be firm, you are going to stress over this and get madder and that is not something ou need to deal with. His clingy wife = his problem. If he has to back out to stay with crazy all day so be it, its a better option than having her tag along and making crabby faces, hogging him at every second, slowing down you pictures…

Post # 73
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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@MrsC2014:  That is one of the rudest things I have ever heard! Stand firm- there is no room, and even if there is another spot it would go to a parent or flower girl before her!  She can be on her own for an hour- goodness!! 

Post # 74
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Sounds like something one of my crazily insecure sisters would ask. Unfortuntely in wedding planning it brings the crazy out in some people. You nicely explained everything to the Groomsmen, now it is up to him to make a decision. I don’t see the problem with him walking down with FI’s lil’ sister, especially if it is just for the ceremony & pics. His wife needs to have everything explained by him, not you. He needs to either be firm with her & insist that there will be nothing happening or he needs to bow out in time for you to replace him.

 

Post # 75
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MrsC2014:  Dude. This happened in my family!! My cousin got married and her sister was a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Sister & Sister’s Husband had been married for 20+ years and he was still all pissed off and jealous that she was paired off with someone else because he wasn’t in the wedding! He ended up getting shitfaced at the reception, drove to the hotel drunk and alone. That led to a fight that brought up a whole bunch of past shit and eventually led to their divorce a year later! No joke!! 

Bitch is crazy and he needs to handle it. No way you should let her in the bridal party. 

Post # 76
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I understand why you’re perplexed. That’s and odd thing to ask!!! 

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