(Closed) and I thought I was having a drama free wedding…. 23 days to go…

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
4477 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yikes!  She sounds really controlling and a PITA.

I’m not really sure what you should do, but I vote ignore her!  She’s not the groomsan, her husband is.  If he needs to know something, he can ask ur Fiance.  All the guys have to do is rent a tux.  If it’s too much hassle for them, they can back out.


Post # 5
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@AshleyB:  Hahaha that text idea about groomsmen’s ex gf is awesome.  Totally something I would want to do.

Post # 6
568 posts
Busy bee

@AshleyB:  honestly…stop texting w/HER. she’s not even in the wedding and she’s obviously really insecure. so nothing you say will be ok with her and it’s a waste of breath.

her husband prob knows she’s insane and will do his best to show up Day of.

Post # 7
2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

1. Weddings are not tit for tat.  The sooner you understand this the better off and more drama free you will be.  It was really nice of you and your Fiance to put all that time and effort into your friends’ wedding, but it’s not fair to expect that from them (though it would be awesome if they returned the gesture).

2. Did you ask your Groomsmen privately what their budgets are before you went out and picked tuxes and ties? If you didn’t I can see why they are upset.  Yes, your Fiance spent so much for your friends’ wedding, but that doesn’t mean he can afford it now.  And I don’t care if you think they have well-paying jobs, you do not know their fiancial situation and you don’t know what they can and cannot afford.    Howver, I admit that It is weird though that she is the one telling you it’s too much – your Groomsmen should really be confornting your Fiance about it.  It was nice that you put $50 towards the cost of the tux.

3. Is there a reason they can’t make the rehearsal?  People do have lives, maybe something important came up.  You said so yourself that all they have to do is show up to the wedding, clean, sober, and dressed appropriately.

4. I’m sorry, I just don’t see the big deal about her asking who her H is walking down the aisle with.


OP, I think you need to calm down and relax.  Unless she is literally yelling and screaming and throwing things I don’t see how she has caused all this drama.


Post # 9
2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AshleyB:  Sorry my response was harsh.  I meant it to be honest and blunt.  I just read your post as “OMG we did all of this and she’s being a b*tch for not doing the same for us.”  And most of times when people vent like that, I try and point out the other side of the story.  Perhaps the venter was being unreasonable and once they realize that they can calm down.  Also it might prevent furture drama and stress.  I’m glad to hear that this isn’t the case though and that it was a more confused WTF? rant and that you weren’t sitting at your computer freaking out.  And I honestly meant it when I said it was really nice of you to do all that for your friend.

I’m glad the issue is fixed.  If the Groomsmen said he was ok with that price, then I agree that she was way out of line texting your Fiance that it was too expensive.

Good luck with the rest of your issues though. I can’t believe someone whould RSVP for 2 people and then bring 6! 

Post # 10
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sounds like a nightmare.

I would either nicely tell her to please chill out and back off or ignore all the drama and enjoy your last few weeks before the wedding.

Post # 10
10 posts
  • Wedding: Playacar Palace in Playa Del Carmen

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