Post # 1
Nope, the texting started again a few days later between DH and this 45 year old.
From 7:30 am till 8:00 pm the past few days consistently, without a breath, they were texting. Another 1,000 text messages.
One minute I’m ready for divorce and the next I’m scared shitless of being a single mom to two little girls. To go through the delivery alone, to look at my 3 year old and have to explain why daddy isn’t around all the time.
Post # 3
@figgnewton: I don’t know exactly what has happened here. But you and your family don’t deserve that kind of disrespect. If you have a support system, leave him now. If you don’t, you better psych your self up and get the balls to go out on your own. Nothing could be worse at this point for you than having a cheating, lying, disrespecting husband.
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Post # 5
@figgnewton: your daughter is 3. Still too young to know what’s going on. You will be amazed how quickly they adapt that young. I know, my son was 4, and he’s fine. If you wait until the children get older, that’s when you will have more difficult issues. My daughter was 8, she had a more difficult time and took longer for her to adapt.
Get your support system in order, family and friends. confront him with , make choices, leave if you have to.
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
I don’t know the backstory here either but that is not ok…have you confronted him yet?
Post # 7
I’m not sure what’s happening, but 1000 text messages a day?! Between two people?
I agree with @Artificial-Sweetener: You need to figure this out whether it be with him or on your own, and it sounds liek you have already tried with him. What’s the difference in doing the delivery and life alone if he isn’t going to be there anyway for you becuase he’s too busy texting this other person??
Post # 8
I know it’s going to be hard, but you and your girls deserve better.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I remember the first story. I am so sorry! I think you gave him one chance, and that is all he deserves. As PP said, young kids adapt quickly.
Post # 10
@figgnewton: There comes a time in every relationship, where a woman has to got to show the man she’s with just who he’s fucking with…you were reasonable, you were patient, you communicated openly and your fella did not get the message…
It is at this point in time that I would have the locks changed, hit shit in a bag on the front stoop and a police car out front to handle the tantrum that ensues from his realization that texting some broad through the night is not the way an adult comports themselves.
I’m a pretty patient and understanding woman, UNTIL I feel like I’m not being respected…its at that point I go charging rhino, ophelia style crazy bitch on a man, and he either figures it out, or finds the nearest exit.
Post # 11
Just read your previous post and it looks like he said he would stop texting her. TBH I would leave now. This is not okay. Big hugs to you!!
Post # 12
@figgnewton: I remember your last post on this. I’m telling you Fig, you can do so much better. He isn’t respecting your relationship. He’s tested you so many times. Here he is thinking he can do whatever he wants and you won’t leave because of the children. Boy is he wrong. At some point you will have enough and that door will be swinging. I just hope you don’t wait to long. You are so much stronger than you know and it’s situations like these that teach us what we are capable of. Show that man what the door looks like.
Post # 13
It’s time to go. I remember the other thread, too. You don’t deserve this. I agree, your girls are young enough where they will adjust easily.
Post # 14
@Nona99: +1. Yep. HELL yep.
He’s way out of line.
Post # 15
@figgnewton: Daddy will have to explain why he isn’t around and why be betrayed his family when mommy made her children her priority. He lied to you and when someone lies, they have a reason to. When someone choses to cover something up, then there is an underlying reason.
It is more important to your DH to continue conversing with this woman than to respect his wife’s feelings. He is willing to risk his life with you for the this other person. Can you live the rest of your life like that?
Personally, I can’t live always wondering if the person who is supposed to love and respect me most actually does.
Post # 16
@figgnewton: i think he crossed the line. he knows you have the means to find out about this because you confronted him last time. thhe knows this makes you uncomfortable right? he’s not prioritizing your needs.
i would ask him to move out.