Post # 1
My Fiance came home last night to tell me that the new company that has taken over has decided to cut jobs and his was one of them
I soooo want to just break down right now but I can’t he is stressed enough now as it is and one of us has to stay positive and upbeat. I know that our wedding is not for a while but if he does not secure another position soon then our budget would not be met and I guess we will have to push it back…I’m just hoping when it gets to that time that the companies I have already paid deposits too will let us change the date! And I ONLY just sent out our Save the Date cards on Tuesday!!
because he works for the company where we live we may have to move too… 🙁 I feel my world was just turned upside down… I know there are many like us in the world today and to be honest I am still soooo very grateful that I am still blessed with a job to be able to support us through this time…
Would you teel your guests that this is the case or give it some time before spliiing the news??
Post # 3
*Hugs* I am so sorry you and FI are going through this! As this just happened last night, I say give it some time. You never know if he would find a job right away. This is a tough situation no matter what, and I think you’re brave in staying upbeat for your Fiance. Wishing the best for both of you…
Post # 4
You have a little time to wait, I wouldn’t do anything just yet. I think you’ll be able to figure out how to make it work!!! I know times like this are overwhelming but things seem to always work out somehow.
Is there anything to cut from your budget? Or can you both take on short term part time jobs to help pay for it? Or can your family help? Just thinking of some ways to get through…
Post # 5
I picked SO up from the train station on a Friday after work (normal occurance, he had a company car and hated driving it home on Friday due to the major traffic). He got in the car and said “I was fired”. Just like that! No warning, nothing. Granted, we weren’t worried about wedding plans but we were worried about his high student loans and our expensive rent being covered by unemployment since we weren’t even sure he’d GET unemployment. It all worked out okay though. After lots of being upset, a few days later we just decided it was just one more hurdle to jump over in our life together. Now he has a better, higher paying job that he actually likes. You two will make it through this as well.
Post # 6
@Angkinah: I’m so sorry. Will he qualify for unemployment insurance? That can really help during the job search.
Sending you guys wishes for a speedy turnaround and an even better job for him!!
Post # 7
Oh no! That’s so horrible. Layoffs can never come at a good time, but this is especially difficult. My little sister just got laid off two weeks after she found out she was pregnant, and the stress of dealing with both a major life event and a layoff does take its toll.
That said, I agree with the other bees that you may want to take a few deep breaths first and evaluate the big picture before you contact your guests about anything. Maybe start by talking to your vendors, explaining your situation and asking what your options are regarding deposits, moving the date, etc. Readjust your own personal budget for your daily lives, factoring in the big changes like whether he will need new insurance, will he collect an unemployment check, and so on. Give it a week or two for sorting all this out, and then you can make a more informed decision about how to proceed with the wedding.
All the best to you both – stay strong!
Post # 8
THANK YOU to you all – I really appreciate all the support right now – it has been a hard morning just TRYING to keep it all together!!
Yes he should as far as we know be able to apply for unemployment but as we live in FL the job situation looks a little grim for him!! However, I nor he will give up hope becuase I am a believer that everything happens for a reason…
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion
I am so sorry you are going through this. I can imagine you are hurt, stressed out, sad and doing your best to be positive.
My husband’s company declared bankruptcy 2 weeks before our wedding and didn’t pay him for the last month plus of work or reimubrse him for outstanding work expenses he had on a personal card (lesson learned-insist on a corporate card). In total, we were left with about $20k in debt and he had to use $ he had saved up for other things to live on and pay wedding bills. It felt like my world was caving in. 3 years later, he has a higher paying job with a more stable company and his debt is not only paid off, but we’ve almost saved enough to buy a modest vacation home.
The whole experience was difficult, but it made us stronger as a couple and worked out well in the end. You are keeping great perspective on this and it will turn out for the best.