(Closed) And just like that…….

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

*Hugs*  I am so sorry you and FI are going through this!  As this just happened last night, I say give it some time.  You never know if he would find a job right away.  This is a tough situation no matter what, and I think you’re brave in staying upbeat for your Fiance.  Wishing the best for both of you…

Post # 4
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You have a little time to wait, I wouldn’t do anything just yet. I think you’ll be able to figure out how to make it work!!! I know times like this are overwhelming but things seem to always work out somehow.

Is there anything to cut from your budget? Or can you both take on short term part time jobs to help pay for it? Or can your family help? Just thinking of some ways to get through…

Post # 5
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I picked SO up from the train station on a Friday after work (normal occurance, he had a company car and hated driving it home on Friday due to the major traffic). He got in the car and said “I was fired”. Just like that! No warning, nothing. Granted, we weren’t worried about wedding plans but we were worried about his high student loans and our expensive rent being covered by unemployment since we weren’t even sure he’d GET unemployment. It all worked out okay though. After lots of being upset, a few days later we just decided it was just one more hurdle to jump over in our life together. Now he has a better, higher paying job that he actually likes. You two will make it through this as well.

Post # 6
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Angkinah:  I’m so sorry. Will he qualify for unemployment insurance?  That can really help during the job search.

Sending you guys wishes for a speedy turnaround and an even better job for him!! 

Post # 7
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Oh no! That’s so horrible. Layoffs can never come at a good time, but this is especially difficult. My little sister just got laid off two weeks after she found out she was pregnant, and the stress of dealing with both a major life event and a layoff does take its toll.

That said, I agree with the other bees that you may want to take a few deep breaths first and evaluate the big picture before you contact your guests about anything. Maybe start by talking to your vendors, explaining your situation and asking what your options are regarding deposits, moving the date, etc. Readjust your own personal budget for your daily lives, factoring in the big changes like whether he will need new insurance, will he collect an unemployment check, and so on. Give it a week or two for sorting all this out, and then you can make a more informed decision about how to proceed with the wedding.

All the best to you both – stay strong!

Post # 9
1381 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

I am so sorry you are going through this. I can imagine you are hurt, stressed out, sad and doing your best to be positive.

My husband’s company declared bankruptcy 2 weeks before our wedding and didn’t pay him for the last month plus of work or reimubrse him for outstanding work expenses he had on a personal card (lesson learned-insist on a corporate card). In total, we were left with about $20k in debt and he had to use $ he had saved up for other things to live on and pay wedding bills. It felt like my world was caving in. 3 years later, he has a higher paying job with a more stable company and his debt is not only paid off, but we’ve almost saved enough to buy a modest vacation home. 

The whole experience was difficult, but it made us stronger as a couple and worked out well in the end. You are keeping great perspective on this and it will turn out for the best.

Big hugs!


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