(Closed) and now he is worried…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m not sure how the boot camp thing works, but is he going to be able to call?  Also there’s always showing her pictures every day.  Maybe one every night for her to kiss and say goodnight to? 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

She wont forget but I would feel the same way. You can show her lots of pictures & tell her stories about him.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that as long as you talk to her about him and show her pictures she will remember, my goddaughter is 4 and she has not seen her dad since she is 2 and she still remembers him she talks to him about once a month on the phone but she has a picture of him near her bed, Its heartbreaking…. but she remembers him.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

Take photos of her and him together, and show them to her on the computer.  My granddaughter LOVES this!  I always thought it would be great if my son used an old audio tape player and read storybooks and/or sing songs-to his niece(s) it would be nice too-since he is away at college, all but Christmas and Summer.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Have you heard about Daddy Dolls?  They’re awesome for military kids!  You submit a head to toe photo of the dad to the company, and then they basically print the picture onto a pillow.  That way the kiddos can sleep at night with a “doll” that has a picture of their dad on it!  On the website, they also have great tips on how to help kids deal with separation while their moms/dads are away.  Just google military daddy dolls and it should come up in the search engine!

Other than that, constantly talking about the dad with their picture really helps.  Maybe have your Fiance write letters to your child and each day/week he is gone, you and the kiddo can read them together.  It will be a new and fun way for your daughter to get excited to communicate with her dad, even though he may not physically be there.

Hang in there!  Military life is hard, but it does has its perks 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@cyndistar3: Aw, the video would be an awesome thing to show her every night.  Maybe he can make a few.  🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Have you seen the commercials for the Hallmark recordable storybooks?

http://www.hallmark.com/online/in-stores/recordable-storybooks/

Fiance and I both remarked that they are such a beautiful idea for someone who’s far away from their children. She would be able to look forward to that every night!

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Your daughter will not forget who her daddy is in 3 months. She is a toddler, not a newborn. It just won’t happen!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@cyndistar3:  No problemo!  My best friend got one for her son while her husband was deployed.  I slept w/ a stuffed bear my Darling Husband got me (then my boyfriend) every night while he was deployed.  So, no matter what the age, they’re always comforting.  I’m sure your daughter will love it!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

if you can i suggest to you take lots of video with him so you can play to while hes away, get him to read bedtime stories and bath time

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@arenyth: My Newphews grandma (his dads mom) bought him one of those for xmas. So neat! she lives in new york and can only get here so many times a year – he is only 9 months but still he will learn its nana joey. Great idea!

 

@cyndistar3: Boot camp isnt too long – she wont forget him! but i love the ideas on this board – the videos are such a sweet idea, and the daddy doll! i had no idea something like that exists. Just be sure to show her pictures and tell her stories! There are awesome message boards for families who have family members in bootcamp – not sure what branch he is in but when my brother was in bootcamp (marine corps) they had message boards you can join and you get a neat calender that shows what they are doing that day in bootcamp – we even got see a couple photos posted of my brother doing drill and swim qualifications while he was there.

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