I didn’t read all of these, but I can offer advice from the opposite end of the spectrum, I am heading into my 2nd year of medical school, and this summer I married a wonderful man who is not at all in medical anything! First let me say that you are very brave and dedicated to move your entire life to where DH is going to medical school, that is definitely not easy. And since medical school is just starting–take a deep breath–I have to warn you that it will probably get worse before it gets better. Medical school last year for me was sometimes a very negative aspect of my life. It is so tough, I had to study almost every hour of every day in between tests, and usually our exams were on Saturdays, which meant that I only got that night and Sunday off. Even with the day and a half off, Sunday night was usually spent previewing Monday’s material.
How did my fiancee (at the time) and me survive? Since I was so incredibly busy, he decided that rather than sitting around and twiddling his thumbs all the time, he would get just as busy. He just started a new job teaching at a high school, so he started volunteering to help coach, supervise at school activities, etc., and before he knew it, he had a large group of friends through his work that he liked to spend time with. I am not sure if you will have a job or not, but if you do, or you meet people, just honestly say, “Hey, I am a medical student’s wife, and I am in great need of someone to hang out with while he is busy with school.” I know firsthand that as females, we tend to have a harder time reaching out to people and going out of our comfort zone. Take walks, explore your new city, go get coffee at a shop, go shopping, you never know who you will run into! Just stay busy, and before you know it, the first year of medical school will be over with and you will be wondering how it went by so quickly.
You are also very lucky to be living with your husband–cherish the few moments you get with him. Me and my fiancee lived together last year, and as often as we could we tried to eat dinner together, etc. At bedtime, we would always make it a point to spend even 10 minutes talking, making out…whatever haha… just to make that time special. I have a friend who is in PA school who got married and had to move to the city alone–her husband had to stay home (4 hours away) to keep running the family farm. They only get to see each other about once a month, if that!
Hang in there, I am not saying that medical won’t totally suck, but it doesn’t last forever, either. Give it some time, even though you didn’t meet a lot of spouses, etc. at this first meeting, I bet as school goes on your husband will make friends with some of his guy classmates who have girlfriends, fiancees, etc. Even if they are also in medical school, they probably would love to have a friend who is not in medical school (I know I did). Why? Because being around your classmates ALLLLL the time gets really old. The only thing anyone can ever talk about is school-related crap, and I got sick and tired of being around that. When I got breaks from school, I didn’t want a friend who would talk about school! Haha…so a lot of my girl friends were not my classmates.
One more thing–try very hard to be strong for your DH. This is a very exciting time in his life, especially if he worked so hard to get into medical school. The new-ness of it will wear off soon, and he will be craving time alone with you, away from school. I know I was so blessed that my guy wasn’t in medical school–he ended up being a great outlet for me because he was so supportive and never gave up on me (and didn’t want to discuss ways to better memorize the brachial plexus LOL).
Good luck, and trust me, before you know it, you will be married to a successful doctor who makes plenty of $$$ to take awesome vacations with his wife :).