- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
Hey! I know you have a lot of people responding with words of support. I just wanted to lend mine as well. I know EXACTLY how you’re feeling. My husband and I started dating when he was serving as a chaplin at a hospital in Chicago. He had funky hours, but they were manageable and I was close to home…everything was familiar…no worries. Then he applied for his first call as a Pastor and ended up in a small town 400 miles from home. I married him knowing our lives would be crazy, but I had NO IDEA just how stressful and hard it would be to adjust to our new life together. Not only that…but I’m totally alone, far from home, friends, family and the job I liked. I had to start over…and it felt even worse because my husband was quickly swallowed up by his duties/job. We spend many nights apart because of long evening meetings or conferences he has to attend. I definitely had that same, “What have I done?” feeling that you described.
We’ve been married about 5 months now and things have gotten a little easier…but that’s after several blow-out arguments, one night spent in the guest room and many nights of panic attacks. It takes time. And yes, you already know you’re going to need to find things to occupy your time and make you happy.
This is a great place to vent. So keep sharing your grief here. Better here then keeping it bottled up inside or blowing up on your husband. Just hang in there and try to find some comfort in that you’re so not alone.