(Closed) … and still no ring!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@legallyblonde:  Have you talked about it? Maybe he doesn’t realise is that important to you.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

this is a wild idea but… talk to him about it maybe? We can’t get you the ring.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@legallyblonde:  not weird at all! I’d try to table a convo with him about it:)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

he might think that you haven’t been together long enough for a proposal. I don’t know very many people who have gotten engaged before the 3 year mark. like PPs have said, have you talked about it? 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@legallyblonde:  No, it’s not weird, especially at your ages.  My H and I met when we were 37 and 40, and were married 11 months later.  

Have you talked to him about a timeline?

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Have you ever talked to him about it? Has he been married before? If he has, perhaps he doesn’t want to walk that road again.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Stories like this are why I won’t move in without getting engaged first. Normally i’d say 2 years of dating isn’t long, but given your ages it’s acceptable. I’m going to assume  you talked to him about marriage before after 2 years u would think, it may be time to revisit this topic with him and see where he stands.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@NickiBee:  I wouldn;t move in together without a very set timeline of getting engaged. My Fiance and I set one before we moved in together. It’s better for everyone to know where you stand.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

@solidarity:  there’s no guarantee he will meet that timeline either. Plenty of stories here as well with women who had talks before moving in together only to still be waiting. Not a good position to be in.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@legallyblonde:  Did you talk to him BEFORE you moved in together about where you want this relationship to go? One of my coworkers warned me about that before I moved in with my SO. She was like, “Make sure you have a talk about where you want this direction to go before you even consider moving in. You don’t want to be xx and single, b/c you two weren’t on the same page.”

If you didn’t talk to him before moving in or shortly after moving in, you have to talk to him now. Maybe he’s happy with the partnership – I mean, he is getting all the benefits without marriage. In order to get what you want in life, you have to be able to address what you want in life. Nobody is psychic not even your SO. 🙂

Hope that helps.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@NickiBee:  I know. If I didn’t live in the most expensive area in the country, I wouldn’t have moved in with my guy without a ring. However, we are both on the same page commitment-wise, and all I can really do is trust him. Also, most couples I know lived together before engagement/marriage so it’s not a total death wish. 🙂

Post # 15
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Helper bee

@MrsNewDay:  I guess if most couples did it, it’s ok. No need to explain to me your reasoning for it. You have your reasons, just as I have mine for not doing it.  I can only imagine the stats for couples where the end result wasn’t marriage. Obviously you’re confident with your guys intentions. Unfortunately the OP isn’t so fortunate.

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