(Closed) And the FMIL Saga continues…..:-(

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am so sorry you are dealing with this still. It is so hurtful but you are handling it as best you can. Just enjoy the rest of what’s left to do and especially ENJOY YOUR DAY!!! Don’t make her problem, your problem no matter how hurtful and rude and insensative and unthoughtful, and terrible she is being.

Post # 4
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624 posts
Busy bee

39 days to go!!  So close.

I know how you feel about the lack of involvement on Future Mother-In-Law part.  Mine was the same way.  She wanted to be involved then flaked every single time and it sucked she wasn’t happy for us and she let Darling Husband down time and time again.  Heck, she helped out more with DH’s friends wedding a few years back than she did with ours.  She didn’t even stay for the rehearsal dinner.

I say keep doing what you are doing, if she makes a negative comment tell you her “Gotta run, suppers ready” if you HAVE to talk to her.  If it’s your Fiance that deals with her, ask him not to tell you any of the negative things she says.  If need be, tell her less and less about the wedding.  This is what Darling Husband did because he was tired of hearing the negativity. 

Ignore her and keep up the good work!

Post # 5
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m sorry that Future Mother-In-Law is acting that way.  Yep, Just ignore her, or let Fiance deal with it.  Enjoy what you are doing/have planned and your wedding day!  🙂  Don’t let her get you down.  Also, maybe the people that she is talking to about not coming to your wedding, will ignore her too, and actually show up to your wedding!  🙂

Post # 6
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2066 posts
Buzzing bee

Wow.  If you decided to talk to her about it, explain her behavior is hurting your feelings.  Explain that you and Fiance feel like she’s treating FBIL’s wedding as the entree and your wedding as the appetizer.  And its hurting your feelings and damaging your relationship. 

Good luck!

Post # 7
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617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Wow, that’s really unfair. This really has to be laid out to her – spell out the differences side by side to her – “you’re doing this for Future Brother-In-Law but you are doing this for our wedding” I would suggest leaving this up to Fiance unless you’re pretty close to her. Good luck! Keep us posted.

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