Post # 1
Okay so we knew from the beginning that our wedding was going to be a large one and we are excited about that still. But the numbers seem to be growing exponentially.
We are at around 85 just for the REHEARSAL dinner without including out of town guest. Is there any way that we can get this number smaller?
We are not having children invited.
Single guest will get a plus one. (non negotiable)
We are trying to only invite those directly related to wedding and wedding activities. (Minister, bridal party, parents, grandparents, close family, people helping with different aspects of the wedding, and very close family friends). I freely admit that with just the bridal party and their +1 it is 36 people already.
Are there anypeople that I am inviting and should not or have I missed people that need to be invited? Who is making the rehearsal dinner guest list for you?
Post # 3
My fmil made our rehearsal dinner guest list because she paid for the rehearsal. I think that in reality you only *need* to invite those people who will actually be doing the rehearsal with you, but for etiquette and courtesy we now invite all immediate family and any out of town family. You do NOT need to invite out of town guests that are not family. You need to discuss these issues with your fh and his family to see what their budget is and how they would like to cut down the list.
Post # 4
I have a huge family, and I think if we did dinner the night before the wedding for family & wedding party, we’d be at about 85 as well. We went to a wedding last spring with my family where only the bridal party was at the rehearsal dinner, and that was not cool with those of us paying thousands of dollars to travel. So not feeding family dinner the night before the wedding is not an option. SO: we are doing burgers and dogs at my parents house, but it is NOT the rehearsal dinner.
The rehearsal dinner will be on Friday (our wedding’s on Sunday). The other thing you can do if you’re worried about cost is think about a rehearsal breakfast or brunch, or even cocktail party.
Post # 5
We’re having bridal party and their guests and our immediate family only and we’re at 50ish. If we invited all of our out of town guests, it would be huge!!! When I’ve been an out of town guest (family or not), I only expect to be fed at the reception. Not sure how you can cut your list, but maybe do something simple like a BBQ.