(Closed) And the official freak-out begins NOW.

posted 8 years ago in January 2012
Post # 47
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107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Sn2bMrs.B: I like your advice. is 10:30am too early to start??? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 49
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Yay! I want to join in the last minute fun!

So, we’re still chasing down 4 people for RSVPs. My love’s family does not feel like it’s important to let us know if they are coming. TWO different people have told us they “might” be there. One doesn’t have control of his work schedule, so okay. One has to work the night before and isn’t sure if he wants to get up that early!! At this point I could care less if they come or not, I just want them to make a freaking decision.

We also got a really funny “RSVP” email yesterday that didn’t say “yes” “no” or “maybe”, it was like a stream of consciousness paragraph about how he wanted to make it but wasn’t sure if he could and etc.

To do:

  • Put centerpieces in vases (not natural flowers, obvs), delegating this!
  • Make bouquets, has to wait, but I’m excited
  • Print escort cards (seating assignments done!)
  • Make night before packing list! (staying at MOH’s)
  • Get Maid/Matron of Honor gift!!
  • Get reader gift!!
  • Figure out something nice to do with my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law the day before.
  • Touch base w/venue & photographer (have already talked to other vendors)
  • Love my fiance and give him a squeeze ๐Ÿ™‚

Also I’m hosting a NYE party. Good thinking Lexy!

 

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@kanadia82: I definitely think your hairdresser should come at 9. Mine is coming at 7.30am to do 4 bridesmaids, me and my mum.  

We need to leave the house by 2pm and I need to be completely finished hair and makeup by 12.30.  The lady at the wedding dress shop said to allow 1.5 hours to get me in my dress which is a bit much but we are going to allow an hour anyway.

Yesterday mum helped me print off our ceremony programmes, finally I got around to typing everything in.  Now the work begins with putting 160 of them together – they will be fans.

Does anyone else find it hard to delegate? I have had so many people offer to help with things but I am so reluctant.  I am a bit of a perfectionist and like to have control of things -so wish I wasn’t like this it would make it easier!

Post # 52
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@nzgirl:  I am resistant to delegating too because…I’m a control freak and I’m not sure I can trust others to execute things exactly as I’d like. I also don’t want to burden anyone.

 

Does that make me sound obnoxious? I probably am obnoxious!

 

I am starting to need more help though, so I think I’ll ask my mom and aunt and cousins for some assistance…

Post # 53
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247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Evie19: Ditto! I am on the same page. Don’t want to bother anyone, or have them mess things up. I feel bad for it, but I would be so disappointed if my vision didn’t come through.

At the same time, the clock is ticking, and it is time to at least get others more involved.

Post # 54
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Just wanted to wish my fellow January brides (and all other wonderful bee’s) Happy New Years!! Best wishes to you and yours. 

Post # 55
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Happy New Year’s everyone!

Sorry I’ve been MIA from WeddingBee (especially the January board) because I’m finding it hard to make time for the Bee between all the wedding tasks/work/holidays.

Here’s a question for you guys: I knew that it would be difficult to do things/contact people because of the holidays but I’m not sure I really knew how hard it would actually be. Part of me wants to know what I was thinking scheduling our wedding so that it falls within three weeks of 4 family birthdays, Christmas and New Year’s.

Follow up question: Have any of you started having wedding nightmares? I had one the other night over a DIY photo project and another where all my bridesmaids were mad/sad at me. Scary at the time but amusing after the fact.

Also (last question, I promise) are you guys finding that you are falling into the “I don’t care about the details anymore I just want to be married” mindset or the opposite “I want to micromanage everything” mindset? Or something in between?

I feel like I just wish it would all be over b/c I’m scared that I’m going to forget some important detail (like getting my dress pressed and possibly fitted one last time). But I’m also finding that I’m freaking out over the littlest thing (ie. I accidentally taped grey paper to the back of the table numbers instead of silver paper).

I thought I wouldn’t be a bridezilla but I’m finding it hard to talk about anything except wedding stuff which has got to be annoying to those around me. Part of me also fears that I won’t have many friends post-wedding because between school, work, and planning a wedding I’ve been pretty MIA for the past 8 months. When I express this concern to friends though they think I’m being a little ridiculous.

Additionally, I’ve grown even more sensitive than usual and it’s not uncommon to find me crying over the littlest thing (ie. I cried over J.K. Rowling’s announcement of the Pottermore website when I saw it as a preview to the Harry Potter movie). I’m trying to remind myself that my nuttiness is somewhat understandable as I’m about to make one of the biggest commitments of my life, am moving, trying to juggle holidays/birthdays, and trying to plan a wedding. But sometimes I can’t help but wonder if my over-sensitivity is indicative of a serious character flaw. After all, my sister, mother, and of course Fiance have been very helpful and supportive so I really don’t have anything to stress about.

Post # 56
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107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@CMSnails  You’ll be fine! I’m wondering if I myself am turning into a Bridezilla, but have had reassurances from others as well that I’m doing fine. 

I know what you mean about forgetting an important detail, but if it’s easily forgotten it can’t be that important after all!! Ask a bridesmaid or MOB to help you remember things that you don’t want to forget! 

 

Best of all Happy New Year January 2012 Brides!  This is our month!! 

(PS, on side note, you know how every January when you go to write the date it takes you a while to get used to the new year? Not this time, I’ve been thinking in my head that’s it’s been 2012 for soooo long now that it’s great to finally actually BE 2012 – anyone else find this amusing?)

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@CMSnails: Mr Rugbee & I are both having wedding nightmares every night. They all revolve around people ditching our ceremony & his suit going missing (or turning powder blue?!?!)

2 more weeks.. ahhh!!!!

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@CMSnails: I am also very sensitive at the moment!  Usually I am not too bad, but I have been in tears over little things nearly every night this week!  I think it doesn’t help that I am overtired and even watching a sad advert on the telly will set me off!  Let’s hope I get all the tears out now and then be ready for the day ๐Ÿ™‚

I just want the wedding to be here.  I am in the mindframe that not much can be changed now and I am starting to not care about little details.  I just want to marry my Fiance ๐Ÿ™‚

@Evie19: and @Ms. Anemone: I am the same with delegating – if people don’t do it my way I get very upset!  I bit the bullet last night, Fiance was going around to his parents to watch a DVD with his dad so I said I would go too and take wedding stuff for his mum and I to work on.  

His mum was over the moon so exciting she has been itching to get involved, and it was so hard to do (constant questions and suggesting how to do things differently – when I have already decided the way I wanted it done!) but I am glad I did as it made her happy.

It took about 3 different jobs before we found the right one for her – cutting out our fan ceremony programmes so we were both happy!

Today my flowergirls met each other (One is 7, lives in NZ, the other one is 3 and lives in Ireland but is over for the wedding – her dad is best man) and we have completely finished their outfits now – which they love so that is one relief!  They have long white tutu’s and neithor one of them wanted to take them off!

Now I just have to get back to tying red ribbons on our damask chocolate favours – 50 down – 70 to go!

Post # 59
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6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Ms. Anemone:  & @nzgirl:   I’m glad I’m not alone!

Honestly…I’m starting to seriously freak out. I’m also feeling super edgy and sensitive and it’s nice to know I’m not alone and crazy…we’re all in the same boat!

I hope you guys are holding up as well as possible under all the pressure.

 

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@CMSnails: I definitely fall under the “don’t care about the details, just want to be married” category. I haven’t made centerpieces yet, haven’t done the programs or even written it, haven’t picked half the music for the reception, which has to be burned onto CDs, haven’t bought fabric for table accents…and I don’t really care to. I will because it needs to be done, but I’d be fine throwing it together, showing up in my dress with normal hair and getting married.

Oh, and I *still* haven’t figured out the departure toss. I think we’re doing rose petals? I suppose we’ll sit them in a basket somewhere…hahaha.

Post # 61
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Helper bee

Constant wedding nightmares.  Which is kind of funny because I’m not really stressing.  I have things to do this week, but most of the planning is done, and I have a back up plan for every plan too, like we hired a dj but a friend is bringing an ipod too.  I told my mom that if something goes wrong on the day of she isn’t allowed to tell me.  I said as long as Fiance showed up, no problem is insurmountable “you have a credit card, just fix it and tell me later.”

Ahhh just a few more days though I can’t wait!

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