- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2000
Ok to start, Ill give you a little background on my Fiance and I…
We have been together for almost 5 years and engaged for Almost 4…Our wedding date has literally NOT changed since we have been engaged..
All my bridesmaids have known who they are since my Fiance and I have been engaged, I started with four (names have been changed)
Olivia-my sister and maid of honor
Rachel- my best friend EVER and Matron of honor
Jalene- EX bridesmaid
So the only one of my bridesmaids that live where I do areJalene and Ally, that was until Jalene decided to run off to college to turn into a bible thumper ( I have no problem with religion and am a christian myself but this place is just overboard) So that left me with Ally, who then found out she was pregnant and is due two weeks after my wedding (great) Anyway, Jalene pretty much drops off the face of the planet, doesnt call, text, email, nothing..could give less of a crap about my wedding or her bridesmaid duties, so I send her a message explaining that my feelings were hurt that she wasnt putting any effort in to being a bridesmaid and I picked her cause she was special (blah blah blah) She responds within a couple days and says how sorry she is and that shell be better,and once she comes home from bible school in may shell help out a bunch…WRONG. A few weeks after that I havent heard from her since, and send her a text saying im sad we hardly talk..then she proceeds to drop the bomb on me that she is going to permanently live where this school is at and shes so sorry.. BULL SH**.. She couldnt even give me the time of day and respect to come forth and tell me that she was permanently staying there, if i hadnt text her that day who knows how long it would have been till she told me! So now Im mad and hurt but trying not to admit my frusturation because shes a big girl, she can make the choice to move and the world doesnt revolve around me, Im well AWARE of that..So then a few more weeks go by and I send out a forward to all my bridesmaids with the link to the bridesmaid dress I chose and asking them to have it ordered by June, she then replies to me complaining about how expensive the dress is, EVEN THOUGH I had run the price by her prior to this and she said it was fine (its $140 just if youre curious)…Sigh, so I offer to pay for part of it since shes poor aparantly..Soo more time goes by and she sends me a message pretty much out of nowhere about how she probably wont be able to come to the wedding because she has no way of transportation..then proceeds to drop the bomb on me that “By the way im probably getting married at the beginning of August” EXCUSE ME??? The girl who has been dating her bible thumpong boyfriend for what, all of 4 months..MAYBE?? So I send her like ten texts freaking out that a she wont be able to come and B. she is getting married out of freaking no where..and she then is like (oh Ill find a way to get there, I guess I could take a bus) PLay the martyr much?? Just when I think im through will all of this crap, she “officially” gets engaged and then it really starts to get crazy..I text her for like a week and never get a response, then finally she responds and says “I just sent you a message on Facebook” so I go and check it and this ***** has the audacity to not only tell me she is no longer coming to my wedding, but that her wedding is 12 DAYS BEFORE MINE..yes the girl who will have known her fiance for a whopping 6 months is getting married before me.. :O Oh but to top it off shes “praying for me” I couldnt even speak, all I could do was sob.. She couldnt even respect me enough to call and tell me..
So I send her a text saying “Just to make sure Im reading this right you are not coming at all” Her response: “Do you really think you could attend a wedding that soon after your own?” Oh because you havent know about my wedding for the past 4 years?? That wasnt enough time to freaking plan for you??? AHHHHH!!! I have never had a friend be so out right careless and SO selfish for claiming she is such a good christian.
Since then I havent been able to talk to her at all, I cant even look at pictures of her without feeling sick, I never thought a friend could break my heart like that, but it happened.
Im so so sad about it all, someone who used to be one of my closest and dearest friends..I didnt even send her an invitation to my wedding..I just want to delete her from my life..Has anyone had similar experiences? How did you cope?