Post # 1
So some of you already know that my wedding (and life) has exploded in my face recently. To catch you up if you didn’t:
My pastor told me I was bad because I didn’t want babies, so we switched counselors. Then the church refused to marry us because we live together (chastely). They told us 44 days before the wedding and they had known for at least nine months. We had to find a new minister and venue. That same morning, the roof of my mom’s house collapsed in the storms. I almost had to ask a bridesmaid to stepdown. I had a blood clot in my leg. My stepdad was hospitalized for Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever (potentially fatal). Name change issues may require me to legally go by a name that has never been “mine” for a while after the wedding. One of our groomsmen told us yesterday tha he “forgot to ask off” for our wedding. Cannot find a sound system to rent for the ceremony, and this morning I realized that means I may not get to walk down the aisle. Then when I was at a bridal salon trying to find a new veil (old one was ruined by water in roof collapse) the lady said that nothing they could order would be in in time. I literally ran out to the car and cried in the parking lot. I hate my wedding. I hate getting married.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry all this crap keeps happening. *hugs*
Post # 4
Umm wow that totally blows. ((HUGS))
I hope it gets better
Post # 5
Oh no I’m so sorry! Take it one step at a time. I’m sure you can find a veil on Etsy, mine shipped so quickly.
Post # 6
Major, major hugs dear. I’m so sorry that all this is happening!
Post # 7
Nothing but hugs for you!!!!!!!
Post # 8
Wow, you have really been through the ringer! I’m so sorry to hear that so much bad stuff has happened all at once.
I know this is probably the least of the issues, and was just the one thing that pushed you over the edge, but could you borrow a veil from a friend???
Post # 9
None of this is fair. Are there any other bridal salons that you can go to that sell veils right off the rack? even if you have to drive a couple hours? 🙁
I know that isn’t going to make it better, but just an idea. Also, how big is your venue? Could you use a CD player with some big speakers borrowed from a friend or family member? Would that even be loud enough?
Post # 10
Oh hun I am so so sorry. Can we help you look for veils? Or help with anything? ((((hugs)))))
Post # 11
@helenberrycrunch: I’m so sorry <3 A priest told my mom she needed to have babies and I think it was a mistake. Don’t let anyone try to make you feel bad for that. I would elope.
Post # 12
Oh dear. That’s a lot to deal with. Do you have some friends who can come over and talk it all through with you? Call a buddy, order some pizza, and take it one thing at a time.
Post # 13
I am so sorry this is happening to you! Hugs to you dear! Just pray and everything will wokr out just fine!
Post # 14
((hugs)) I would have dissolved into tears ages ago. I’m very proud of you that you’re only crying now!!! You’re a strong lady, you’ll get through it! How’s your dad?
Post # 15
omg, I nearly lost my breathe holding it hoping the bad news would stop! =(
Have you check ebay for veils? I just got mine from VenusVeils… super cheap (23 bucks) and I got it in a week.
Post # 16
I know I cant fix anything, but maybe, just maybe people here can help.
Have you checked Etsy for a veil? they may be able to rush make/mail one to you!
As for a sound system- whats your venue? Could you use stereo speakers and an ipod that someone may have?
Maybe you could ask a local DJ who is not booked to rent their equipment? Just start calling around. If they arent working, they can make some easy money.
Your stepfather will get lots of prayers and positive wishes from all of us here. Just because something is potentially fatal, doesnt mean it is. I have a fatal heart condition for most people, but for me its not. Don’t undersestimate positive attitude, the will to live and doctors skills! I will be sending positive vibes for you.
Did your mom have insurance for the roof? It sucks. It really does, but hopefully it can be fixed without costing your family money. Unfortunately there isnt insurance for stress, but look at the good side. A new roof will be stronger, and wont need new shingles for a long time!
I am sorry. I know how it can all add up and I am not trying to trivialize the problems by offering possible solutions/advice. But trying to look at each one indivisually instead of as a group can make them less stressful and more manageable.