Post # 1
So last night I was totally minding my own business, reading through the new Brides magazine, and I saw something that really upset me..and I’m not even sure if I should be upset, but I am!!
There was an ad for Oscar de la Renta’s new line of wedding dresses, and there was a beautiful lace (short) dress with blush lining. So, I tried to stay calm, and keep turning the pages. 2 pages later is an ad for Lilly Pulitzer, who has a dress NEARLY IDENTICAL TO MINE. Gah! Panic mode! So I took a picture and sent it to my mom. She assures me it’s nothing, and that mine is one of a kind. 5 pages later is a dress that is a vintage lace gown that is MY DRESS. Well, nearly.
Holy shit…am I being totally insane by being mad about this???
Exhibit A: Oscar’s dress:
Exhibit B: Lilly Pulitzer Dress:
and My Dress:
Post # 3
Were you told it was a one of a kind dress when you purchased it? Was that one of the reasons you bought it?
Post # 4
So…whats the problem exactly? your dress is too similar to another dress?
Post # 5
I’m confused–why are you mad that there are dresses that look like yours? Were you told there would be no dresses like yours? Because that seems sort of unrealistic–you know what they say: “There’s nothing new under the sun.”
Post # 6
@lezlers: It’s a vintage gown that I’m re-working…I put in the blush liner because the original liner was shot, but I am just worried that I’ll look ‘trendy’ or like I ‘copied’ these designers.
It sounds so juvenile, but this whole time I’ve been so smug about having a one of a kind dress 🙁
Post # 7
I kinda dont get it. Is your dress not made by a designer?
Post # 8
Didn’t your mom find the lace dress at an estate sale? That means it’s one of a kind with a great story! Plus, I think your dress is way more gorgeous than the other two. There will always be dresses that look like yours, or someone who “steals” your idea. For example, I thought I was being really creative and original with my fingerprint tree guestbooks, but then I found out that they’re a big deal on wedding blogs! Oh well, everyone at my wedding thought it was creative and original, and I love it. I think your dress is beautiful and one of a kind, and so will everyone at your wedding.
Post # 9
There’s a similar theme to all the dresses, but they’re all very different in their own ways. I think you are over-reacting a bit… don’t worry so much!
Post # 10
The pattern of the overlay looks quite different to me between your dress and the Lilly Pulitzer dress.
Post # 11
I’m also confused about the problem. Did you purchase a guaranteed original direct from a big-name designer? In the world of fashion, even custom-made “originals” are not safe forever – eventually other or knock-off designers copy them. Or was yours custom-made by a local designer? How long ago was yours made? I don’t think I understand what’s happening…
@napabridekelsey: Oh, I see now. I guess I’m sorry that you’re not one-of-a-kind anymore, but shouldn’t most brides assume they aren’t? Most wedding dresses look basically the same, anyway. Unless it’s an Alexander McQueen, but he won’t be making anymore originals. :'(
Post # 12
I think it means you are a Trend Setter! It’s lovely and has a great story. I don’t think any of your guests will ever think anything of it at all, and I think you should reframe your thoughts to “Wow, I am a fashion genius and totally ahead of the curve!” It’s a lovely dress and looks so nice on you!
Post # 13
No one at your wedding other than brides to be are reading bridal magazines or have ANY idea what is trendy in the world of weddings. And, the brides-to-be are going to be so worried about their own weddings that they aren’t going to give two thoughts to the fact that they’ve seen dresses similar to yours in magazines. Don’t let the wedding industrial complex get you down.
Post # 14
Sorry girls, I should have explained better.
It’s a vintage gown that my mom brought home from an estate sale, that we’ve been tediously re-working to bring it to its original glory. The lining was shot, and I thought I was being super creative by doing a blush lining..because I seriously could not find one dress with blush lining.
I guess what I’m upset about (noted above) is that I don’t want to look like I’m copying these designers, or that I’m being trendy.
Post # 15
its not the same. Yours in much nicer. love it.
Post # 16
@ktbrady: and @nmsoonerbride: Thank you ladies 🙂 Phew. You’re right…no one will have any idea, and if they did (brides to be) would be too worried about their own shizz that they won’t notice.
*Sigh* bridezilla moment passed!! Thank you!