Post # 1
I’m just on here to let out a bit of emotion really! My Husband and I have been married for 4, wonderful months! We knew that when we got married things would be tight financially — I’m a yoga teacher/music teacher (both incomes combined are pitiful) and he was just finishing school. Almost as soon as we got married he started the application process for the local Sheriff’s department…an incredibly LONG process which was successful, until today.
He has had to do physical tests, written tests, background checks, multiple interviews, oral boards, psyche evaluations, medical testing, the whole lot basically. He got down to the final 36 applicants (out of 800) and we were SO excited for the last stage — the polygraph.
However, his Psyche Evaluation showed that he was too “normal” (seriously, he was underneath this level of crazy that most people fall into), and the psychologist disqualified him from the entire process one day before his polygraph. It is just so frustrating because he is incredibly level-headed and is PERFECT for this job (he has 6 years Military background and a heart of gold!), and I feel like if this test had been compared to the rest of the data from his interview process it would have made sense to the psychologist. But that part is separate from everything else and, unfortunately, if they disqualify you that is it! Done.
I’m just nervous because we really put all of our efforts into this job for him. We were not pursuing other permanent jobs for him because though he can work while in the application process, he would have had to quit for the academy (which starts February). Now he has no job except his National Guard, which is one weekend a month and again, only enough pay to make a partial payment on insurance/student loans.
Phew. I know things will work out, but after being slapped in the face only a moment ago I’m having a hard time seeing the big picture right now.
Thanks for listening Bees…what would I do without you guys to vent to? 🙂
Post # 3
Wait…he’s too normal? Gotta say, I’ve never heard of that before. No worries though! Something will come along and you two will be just fine. Keep trying for a better job for hubby!
Post # 4
That’s mad. Poor you, he must be very frustrated by that! Don’t fret, it is a setback, but as they say, What’s for ya won’t go by ya. Something better could be on its way right now! Chin up!
Post # 5
My bf has been thru that process so many times with different police departments … I know what you are going thru! After 3 years he finally got an offer, after placing in the top % of so many before (which never hired or hired just 1 etc. with budget cuts). You definitely deserve to be frustrated!! No one really understands until they go thru the insane process. Much luck to you both – things will change hopefully very soon!!
Post # 6
Oh you guys, thank you so much! It is nice to hear some encouraging words from each of you and @blondie, congrats on your Boyfriend or Best Friend finally getting placed! It truly is grueling and I’m trying to gear up for it if he wants to do it again in a year…
Post # 7
This same thing happened to my son and was sooooo shocking to all of us! It’s kind of bizarre how one person’s interpretation can cancel out all of the other positive tests/tasks he’s passed!! You should check into protesting the results….I’ve heard that he could be re-evaluated by another psychologist and retake the exam…I’d definitely fight this one! Two weeks after my son failed the psych exam he was offered a job at a fire department he had applied for at the same time. Sometimes when a door closes, another one opens! Good luck to you both, I know how sad/shocked you must feel…and he should be able to re-apply in 2 years if that’s any consolation, or start over at another sheriff’s department or for even a city police job.
Post # 8
Thanks! People tell you to keep your chin up, but you know what? It just sucks.
I think it’s crazy that we supporters have to wish for our SOs to get jobs where their lives are on the line every single day. Who wants to wish for that!? But I knew it was what my bf wanted and worked so hard for. He worked 2-3 retails jobs at a time until he got that letter … time after time hearing rumors that “so and so are hiring 15 next year” and it never panning out. It’s a huge slap in the face. It’s all so subjective – the whole process.
I know it doesn’t solve anything, but I really wanted you to know you’re not alone 🙂 Sending lots of luck your way!!
Post # 9
@bridesmomma — it really is shocking, but these things always happen for a reason! We will see what the future holds but getting so close and then being rejected really shinks.
@blondibri — hehe, I know exactly what you mean! But it sounds like you and your Boyfriend or Best Friend had quite the time getting him in (which I totally know what you mean — WHY do we encourage them to pursue dangerous jobs?!?)…so I’m glad you guys made it through it and that he is happy now!