(Closed) ….and what if he doesn't?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
662 posts
Busy bee

I hope you all get what you are hoping for for Christmas!!

Post # 4
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I actually discussed it with my SO, because I know he has ben saving, and he asked me to look at rings with him going into engagement season. I said if he couldn’t/wasn’t ready yet, that was 100%fine, but I may show some disappointment and I was very very sorry for being a brat to him. I asked for a handwritten love letter instead. He said that the ring would come by the end of the school year (we are graduating college), and that is good for me. I did happen to see his bank account webpage up on his screen though, but I was very good and didn’t peek at all, I promise =)

Post # 5
2118 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I know it will happen before the end of March. As much as I would love for it to happen around the holidays, if it doesn’t, it won’t change my excitement in the slightest. In fact, I’m 99.9% sure I have a 2013 proposal awaiting me and I can’t stop thinking about it! ๐Ÿ™‚

I do look forward to reading even more wonderful proposal stories- it is SUCH an exciting time of year ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Makena Cove

I really dont know what I’m going to do. We have so much going on the next few weeks, through New Years that I cant really get dissapointed if it doesn’t happen on Christmas. I’m already anxious and excited and nervous so I almost want him to just get it over with! *Soon.* is my timefram (Argh!) To make matters even more tricky: he doesn’t know that I know he has the ring. So for all I know, he could wait until my birthday in July. Sealed

Post # 7
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

i am lucky because we are going ring shopping AFTER christmas so i know 100% i won’t be getting a ring, and i’m just happy i get a say-so ๐Ÿ™‚ i feel bad that he still has to get me a present though! 

Post # 8
482 posts
Helper bee

im pretty sure it will happen over the holidays. but if for any reason it doesnt happen ill be disappointed of course and move forward. he has until the end of january, nothing i can do now but wait.

Post # 9
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I have come to terms that it probably won’t happen over Christmas eve/Christmas but I am still holding out for maybe NYE??  If not, pssssh I don’t know WHAT I’ll do, I haven’t thought that far ahead!

Post # 10
9885 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had requested the proposal to NOT be on any holiday or my birthday because I wanted it to be special and also a surprise. 

So, I knew last year it wouldn’t be at Christmas or New Year’s or Valentine’s Day.  I thought it would be after Valentine’s Day of last year, but he proposed in January – January 17th, to be exact which, ironically, was on the day after MLK Day, another holiday, lol.  The reason he chose that day was because he had just picked up my ring from the jeweler and he couldn’t stand it.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@tisposeroperche:  I don’t care if I get something else under the tree. In fact, I wouldn’t mind getting a Christmas present and a proposal later. I know the proposal is coming soon, as in the next week or so, so I wouldn’t mind that one bit.

Post # 12
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t be sad if you don’t get a proposal over Christmas, it could be a blessing in disguise!

There were many years where I hoped for a ring that didn’t come to fruition. There was one hilarious Christmas a few years back where he got me an ipod nano, and if you know the box it is the very size and shape of a ring box. Anyway, he jumped through ridiculous hoops to wrap it so that I wouldn’t think it was a ring and then be disappointed. Anyway…

The proposal finally came this past summer after six years, and to be honest I’m so grateful it didn’t come any earlier. I didn’t know it then, but seeing how much our relationship has grown and developed over that time, I really feel the two of us are ready for a marriage – forget the wedding part! I think if it had come any earlier we’d have had struggles along the way, which would have really taken some of the fun out of the experience.

So remember why you are with your SO, and don’t take it to heart if you don’t get a ring this year. You never know, your relationship might have a bit farther to go before it’s the right time.

Happy holidays, Bees!


Post # 13
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

i am as close to 100% sure that i am not getting the proposal for the holidays and i’ve been mentally prepping myself the last few weeks since i was pretty sure. 

I’ve had my pity sad moments (some here on this board! lol) but I’m trying to be postive.

Honestly the thing I’m most worried about is inconsistency with gifts! this is our 3rd xmas and he usually gets me 1 nice thing and then several “fun” gifts. I guess i was so sure when i started shopping for xmas 6 weeks ago that he was getting me a ring that I went overboard on his gifts to compensate. I’m worried HE will feel bad when he gets all of these “dream” gifts.

My stomach will drop, I’ll be sad, but I’ll shake it off.


good luck to everyone!

Post # 14
3340 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I was proposed to on Christmas Eve last year, and I have to say that a holiday proposal was never something I dreamed of or expected.  The proposal would have been just as special at any other time of year.

Post # 15
352 posts
Helper bee

Since I’m Jewish and my boyfriend is not we decided that I’d give him a Chanukah present and he’d give me a Christmas present, I thought that sounded fun.  I bought my boyfriend a powertool he had been talking about wanting for months, and it was honestly more money than I’ve pretty much ever spent on a gift for ANYONE.  

He LOVED it and started dropping hints that he was getting me a DIAMOND for Christmas (he would joke he was getting me a diamond blade for the tool I got him, and once, very seriously, said to me “you know what I’m getting you”). That, combined with the fact that he has been way way way over the top romantic with me lately had me thinking that my Christmas present might be IT.

But after a conversation a few days ago where he got kind of upset and admitted he doesn’t know yet what he’s getting for me and he feels bad about it, I’m now pretty sure it’s not happening over the holidays now.


Oh well, maybe in a few months, we have a big relationship milestone coming up Feb 1st, we’ll see.

Post # 16
227 posts
Helper bee

I prepared myself for it last night. I decided better to prepare now then spend the holidays bitter. I’m trying to drown out my hope and just enjoy christmas… we will see how it works. I told my family I don’t want ring so they won’t think he disappointed me ๐Ÿ™ But we all know I want him to finally say spend the rest of you life with me, let me change your last name… like everyone else here!

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