(Closed) And you wonder why people don’t RSVP!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Worker bee

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@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I am so crossing my fingers for no’s as well. I sent them out a month ago. Only have 27 – Y, 6 – N, and 167 not responded. I’m hoping our guest list will stay around 140 at the end of the day.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@SerenaSF: Agreed. 

I’m not calling any of the “no” RSVPs to ask WHYYY and whine about it to people.  I just need to know who’s coming or not so I can make sure we have enough food, chairs, favors, etc.  Its just common courtesy, I think, to respond — especially when all you have to do is check something and seal the envelope.  Its already been pre-addressed and stamped for ya!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Mrs.ChubbyBunny:

DITTO  to that!   

at £70  per head i am counting how much i have saved by each NO!     is that awful?

LOL

Post # 20
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Getting emotionally invested in wedding invitations/RSVP’s = FAIL

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I always make an effort to RSVP as soon as possible when I get an invitation, even if it is to say no. It takes all of 5 minutes from checking off something to putting it in the mailbox on my street, and I know if saves the person who is throwing the event a lot of trouble.

Frankly, I don’t care if people don’t come to my wedding (unless it was my sister or my mom or something). I wanted a small wedding anyway!

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I partially disagree with you. No one is required to give the couple an explanation for a “no” and the bride shouldn’t be harassing people for saying they won’t attend, but I think it is the considerate thing to do to give the couple an explanation. I got four nos in one day from good friends from college. They all live out of town and are either in grad school or have their own wedding coming up soon, so I totally understand they can’t make it. But I was really hurt at first that none of them wrote anything on the RSVP card besides a no or sent me a text message. Three of the four ended up writing me really lovely emails saying they were so sorry they couldn’t make it for such and such reason and wishing me the best etc. Sure no one owes you an explanation, but it takes five seconds to send a text along the lines of “so sorry I can’t make it to your wedding. I hope you have a great time and I can’t wait to see pictures.” Getting a no from a good friend with no further comment kind of feels like a door slammed in your face and I’m still feeling hurt by the one no I got that day that hasn’t reached out to me at all.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I totally did that. I got an invite for a wedding of one of my college friends/roommates to a man I despise and who actively forbid her to follow her dreams (of becoming a biologist–she had an offer for an internship) because he wanted her to become a stay-at-home Christian mother. Every time I looked at the invite it broke my heart, so I never RSVPd. She probably wanted to kill me.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Pinksapphire: I agree. I think what pisses me off the most is that regardless of whether or not you can attend our wedding, just mail the already stamped reply card back with a yes or no.

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