(Closed) Angry at Archie AmbivalentConfused about upcoming anniversary –

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If this is the man that you want to be engaged to, I have a hard time understanding why you wouldn’t want to celebrate an anniversary with him and vice versa? You probably wrote the post in a vent so I don’t want to be quick to judge but it almost gave the impression that you both don’t enjoy being together. I understand that it is hard to wait, I was with my Fiance even longer before we got engaged. It wasn’t an ambivalence to get married, we just weren’t at the right point in our lives where we wanted to add marriage to the mix. If you and he are ambivalent after 5 years, what exactly are you waiting for to happen in order to make your decision? Just something to think about. 

Post # 5
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

A few weeks ago I started planning a small trip for us but shortly after I started I asked him, “Is this something you’re interested in or are you just going along with it? Because if you’re just going along with it then forget it.” And he said, “Yea, I guess you can forget it.”

Ouch. I just find his response mean. How does that make you feel? Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who’s just along for the ride? I do NOT think you are to blame for overanalyzing. You’re not expecting too much or wanting too much or being selfish. You deserve someone who is just as excited to celebrate milestones as you are.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@LucyLaLa:My hubby is a lump. I almost turned back less that 3/4 mile in to our one hike in the grand canyon because he was being a crabby pants.

And it was our honeymoon!

 

We ended up having a talk on the trail, and finally hiked in. I cut the trail shorter than I would have, but we did 6 miles. And I am SO glad that we did those 6 miles.

 

Hang on, hun.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

ETA   In response to: “Is this something you’re interested in or are you just going along with it? Because if you’re just going along with it then forget it.” And he said, “Yea, I guess you can forget it.”

 

 

Don’t cut off your nose to spite your face!

 

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