(Closed) Angry at my FI…possibly irrationally?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Could he maybe have been confused by a time zone difference? You never know.

Or maybe he forgot that he told you the wrong time and just assumed that you were already watching it.

P.S. What school do you go to? 😛 I go to UF (go Gators!) so I’m not sure who I want to win, haha.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Maybe he thought you became busy with something else. I wouldn’t make a huge deal about this. But then again I’m not long distance. Sorry your afternoon didnt turn out like you expected.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug:  I dunno, that does kinda suck. :/

Have you asked him yet why he didn’t let you know the game was starting earlier? (Nicely, of course. You don’t wanna start a fight!)

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Is he a huge football fanatic?  My fiance is, and I can almost guarantee he’d forget to call or text me if a big game that he was really invested in was on.

I honestly don’t think you should be upset.  I can definitely understand your disappointment, but I’d try to cut him some slack … It just sounds like a case of miscommunication, which is frustrating, but not a big deal.  It happens to all of us!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

“important” things like this, I do not leave in the responsibility of other’s. I would have double and triple checked the times and I would have made myself responsible for when to click on the TV. I understand being in an LDR and doing things “together”. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. I understand how painful it is to miss out on those opportunities, but I wouldn’t blame him. Sure, he could have called you easily, but just as easily you could have validated the times for yourself.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug:  Oh, I just saw your response to an earlier comment.  Hmmm … It is a little odd that he didn’t say anything when you sent him a text, but he may have just made an assumption that you weren’t feeling well (or were just extremely tired) and didn’t want you to feel obligated to watch the game with him.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

It sounds like he thought your plans were changed since you text him right when the game started. It seems like a simple miscommunication to me. I can understand your frustration, but I don’t think it’s anyone’s fault. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

A little off-topic, but ROLL TIDE! lol Laughing

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug:  I wouldn’t say you’re being irrational at all. I think you need to talk to him about his general behavior when it comes to these sorts of things (like the example your give in your later post). I’d wait until you’re in a calmer mood, though.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug:  I acknowledge that you are  hurt and upset, but you texted him that you were going to take a nap. Maybe he thought you were tired and were going to take a nap. He was considerate by not calling back and waking you from your nap.

He can’t read you mind and know that you would not have been going down for a nap if you knew the correct time the game started. Sorry, but this one is on you.

As far as him not making plans to celebrate the way you would like, get used to it. He is the way he is and he won’t change. If you want to have a celebratory dinner in the future, you will likely be the one making the reservations.

Read the Five  Love Languages if you haven’t already.

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