Post # 1
ugh, this is driving me nuts and I had to get it out somewhere…
Fiance works in a bar/grill and I’ve been asking him CONSTANTLY for the past month if they were going to be closed Christmas Eve and or Christmas day. My family would really like him to be in Dallas with us (as would I!!) and so I was hoping it would work out.
Anyway, today he texts me at about 7pm to say that they will be open for Christmas Eve – bummer but he works during the day on Thursdays so I figured he could fly out after work no problem. When I asked him he said:
“I’ll just stay home… after getting up early and working all day I don’t want to really put up with a plane ride.”
I would say I was upset but that’s an understatement – it PISSED ME OFF. Because, really, there are so many times that I’m tired but I still make the effort to do things for him because I know they will mean a lot to him. I’m just… ARGH – SO ANGRY!
He’s still at work so I can’t really talk to him about it until he gets home and I don’t even know if I can talk constructively about this now anyway. Am I over-reacting? I mean, it just seems so.. blah. Even if that’s the way he really feels, I think he could have said it in a better way at least. Ugh.
I think I’m going to just go to bed and hope I feel better in the morning. 🙁
Post # 3
I am sorry you are so upset! You need to sit him down and explain how important this is to you. Hopefully, he’ll understand. The only thing I can think of as a positive is that maybe he is planning to fly out in secret as a surprise for Christas for you?
Post # 4
::blink:: omg, I didn’t even think about that… lol, I don’t know if he would do that or not but he’s smart enough to say something like this to throw me off base.
Thanks, rabbit – even if that’s not the case, it gives me a different way to look at it! 🙂
Post # 5
That sucks! I wouldn’t talk to him until you’re calm. Holiday plans are a huge issue even without the added complications of work, so you’re not the only one stressing about this. I think every couple needs to figure out a long-term plan that works for them. Ideally, you would do this well in advance of the holidays. It sounds like you kept asking him about work hours but didn’t plan out a schedule.
Regarding this year, I see his point in not wanting to fly after working a lot. How many days would he have off besides Christmas? Is it really long enough to take a trip, have time with your family, get back, and rest up before work? If so, I hope you can convince him to do this for you. And hopefully, starting next year, you guys will have a standing agreement on which holidays are spent where so this doesn’t happen again.
Post # 6
*hugs* I totally, totally understand you on this. I think you need to calm down first, then explain to him how much it means to you that he’s there with you on Christmas Day. It’s absolutely breaking my heart that Mr. KM won’t be there, but there’s no way he can just up and leave his family since it’ll be our last Christmas not married. We need to spend it with our respective families and I’m having a really hard time with it. If there were any way at ALL for us to spend it together, I would do it, and I think you should tell him how you feel (calmly!)