(Closed) ANGRY RSVP Rant!!

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

that is very odd. you should have fiance call and ask what’s up and why they are trying to bring an uninvited guest.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If it’s his family, it is his job. He must get on this. Do you know if the guest is a child or an adult? Is it a relative?

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

All you can do is just have Fiance or his family call and explain to them that they can’t bring a guest.  Some people just don’t realize people are on budgets and can’t add extras.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This is, sadly, not uncommon. Since it’s his side, he has to deal with it or his parents or someone over there. Not your problem.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That is so rude!  I’m sorry that they did that.  You should have your Fiance discuss it with them.  I hope they haven’t bought airfare for this additional person.

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Tacky!!!  I would just call them and say politley that the invite was only for the 2 of them and due to numbers it will have to stay that way 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Eeeek so rude! If Future Mother-In-Law is not calling these guests I would have Fiance call them and politely say “Thank you for your RSVP, unfortunately due to ____ (limited space/budget contraints) we are unable to add anyone else to our guestlist.”

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Eek, yeah. I can understand including a child, just assuming the invite was for the household, but a random adult? I can’t even imagine the mental gymnastics it would require to think that is acceptable behavior.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Let us know what happens! I’m dying to know who the mystery person is…could it be a nurse that cares for one of them? you said they are older…is one disabled in any way?

good luck!

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, have to agree, it’s not totally uncommon, some people do not understand that when it’s addressed to mr. & mrs. that it means.. no one else is invited, or I would have included them on the envelope.

It’s totally okay to call them to find out who the guest is..

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

That is so rude and obviously puts you and your Fiance in a very awkward situation of having to call them and tell them how rude they were. I don’t understand what is so hard about RSVPing correctly: On time and only for people who were actually invited.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Honestly, in recent years, I have noticed a shift in manners and ettiquette.  I have been a BM/MOH 15 times and just this past year, I’ve had to speak up twice due to rude guests.  One, asked the bride “I know you sent me an invitation but I’m going to bring a date with me.  You don’t know him, but I never attend weddings by myself so you need to add him to your list.”  The other one decided she was going to bring her 7 year old (who was not invited) to an ADULTS ONLY RECEPTION.  She said, “Well, I don’t go anywhere without my child.  If I couldn’t bring her, then I wouldn’t have come.”  Okay, here’s a thought…DON’T. Yell I really cannot stand bad manners…

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Tacky but unfortunatly NOT unheard of (people are crazy!). I would have your fiance’ or your FHs parents talk to them.

Sorry that happened! 🙁

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