Post # 1
I sent out my invitations rsvp date is on April 10th. Saturday we recevied an RSVP card that was address to a Mr & Mrs. They RSVP’d that they are coming and THEY ADDED A GUEST to the CARD that was not invited to the wedding…..in fact I don’t know who they are since its on my Fiance side of the family. Who does that! I have asked my Future Mother-In-Law to follow up but what do I do and has this happen to anyone in the past? Probably not since its so rude! Future Mother-In-Law still hasn’t asked this family member about this so I’m not sure what to do or how many times I should ask her to follow up without me being rude….ohhh boy!
Post # 3
that is very odd. you should have fiance call and ask what’s up and why they are trying to bring an uninvited guest.
Post # 4
If it’s his family, it is his job. He must get on this. Do you know if the guest is a child or an adult? Is it a relative?
Post # 5
All you can do is just have Fiance or his family call and explain to them that they can’t bring a guest. Some people just don’t realize people are on budgets and can’t add extras.
Post # 6
This is, sadly, not uncommon. Since it’s his side, he has to deal with it or his parents or someone over there. Not your problem.
Post # 7
That is so rude! I’m sorry that they did that. You should have your Fiance discuss it with them. I hope they haven’t bought airfare for this additional person.
Post # 8
Tacky!!! I would just call them and say politley that the invite was only for the 2 of them and due to numbers it will have to stay that way 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 9
Eeeek so rude! If Future Mother-In-Law is not calling these guests I would have Fiance call them and politely say “Thank you for your RSVP, unfortunately due to ____ (limited space/budget contraints) we are unable to add anyone else to our guestlist.”
Post # 10
Yes its his side of the family. I keep asking him to follow up with his mom to get this mess delt with. What an awkward conversation that is going to be. The name they added to the rsvp card isn’t the same as their last name either. Per my Fiance they are an older couple so its not a child….maybe its someone they met at BINGO who knows lol. I am still shocked that someone would have the audacity to do this, not even a note explaining why …nothing….insane!
Post # 11
Eek, yeah. I can understand including a child, just assuming the invite was for the household, but a random adult? I can’t even imagine the mental gymnastics it would require to think that is acceptable behavior.
Post # 12
Let us know what happens! I’m dying to know who the mystery person is…could it be a nurse that cares for one of them? you said they are older…is one disabled in any way?
Post # 13
Yeah, have to agree, it’s not totally uncommon, some people do not understand that when it’s addressed to mr. & mrs. that it means.. no one else is invited, or I would have included them on the envelope.
It’s totally okay to call them to find out who the guest is..
Post # 14
That is so rude and obviously puts you and your Fiance in a very awkward situation of having to call them and tell them how rude they were. I don’t understand what is so hard about RSVPing correctly: On time and only for people who were actually invited.
Post # 15
Honestly, in recent years, I have noticed a shift in manners and ettiquette. I have been a BM/MOH 15 times and just this past year, I’ve had to speak up twice due to rude guests. One, asked the bride “I know you sent me an invitation but I’m going to bring a date with me. You don’t know him, but I never attend weddings by myself so you need to add him to your list.” The other one decided she was going to bring her 7 year old (who was not invited) to an ADULTS ONLY RECEPTION. She said, “Well, I don’t go anywhere without my child. If I couldn’t bring her, then I wouldn’t have come.” Okay, here’s a thought…DON’T. I really cannot stand bad manners…
Post # 16
Tacky but unfortunatly NOT unheard of (people are crazy!). I would have your fiance’ or your FHs parents talk to them.
Sorry that happened! 🙁