- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I’m going to try to make it short! My hubbys brothers wife is a great person, one that I have always gotten along with but now I’m just angry at her – and I’m pretty sure its selfish of me to be angry because of the situation. Unfortunately I don’t get it because I’ve never been pregnant let alone been put on bed rest. Should I just let it go?? Story below.
She found out she’s pregnant in January of 2012 – baby was due at the end of August/early Sept – in June she was put on bed rest (she started going into labor). My bridal shower was in mid-July she originally RSVPd saying she would go (I wasn’t sure why since she was on bed rest, and wasnt expecting her to go but she said she was going). A day before the bridal shower she texted me saying she wont be able to make it. Fine – not a big deal, she’s preggo and on bed rest. One week after my bridal shower she had a friends bridal shower (which she went to) Fine? I’m not sure – maybe she didn’t feel good the day before my shower – who knows. Two weeks after my bridal shower was her baby shower (this was planned prior to her being put on bed rest, so once again not a big deal to me since she shouldnt really miss her own baby shower or cancel it since it was planned before she was put on bed rest.
Two weeks before she gave birth she went to her friends wedding – even though she’s on bed rest. I figured maybe she just wants to get out of the house as much as she can before she has a baby… so fine? not a big deal I guess
She gave birth to a beautiful healthy girl at the end of August – our wedding was in Oct – she RSVPd for the wedding saying she’ll be there for sure. Two days before the wedding she texted me to let me know that she won’t be attending the wedding because she doesn’t feel “well”. Fine – not a big deal, she had a baby a month and a few weeks ago so it is what it is. Our wedding was on Saturday, the Sunday after our wedding she went to a friends baby shower. Big deal? I don’t know.
Her baby’s Christening is this upcoming Sunday – I really don’t want to go, but I know that if I don’t go it will cause tensision between me and hubbys family and make me “Look bad” I’m upset – maybe not necessarily angry because just looking at the chain of events it makes it seem like she made an attempt to go to everyone else events but mine, even though she was on bed rest and wasn’t technically supposed to go anywhere, but she did. Do I let it go, suck it up & go to the Christening? It’s just upsetting. I hope I didn’t offend anyone here – and as I mentioned in the beginning maybe I would have a different view on this if I was pregnant before and had a baby or was put on bed rest, but since I haven’t been in that situation I can’t really relate. Any advice will be appreciated!