(Closed) Angry – What would you do? Confront his new gf?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Busy bee

Why do you continue contact with this fucktard? Why on earth would you want to be with him??? You know why he lies and walks all over you? Because he’s an asshole and he knows you’ll still be there.

The sooner you let this shit go the better. I seriously cannot get my head around the chances you have given this ass and why you don’t respect yourself more than this. 

Post # 33
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Blushing bee

I probably have a different opinion than most here, but- I would tell her. Not to get revenge, but for her sake, even though you don’t know her. If I was that girl, I would like to know what’s going on behind my back. This is why I wiuld tell her. But be prepared that maybe she doesnt wanna hear it.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee

Is all this mess seriously worth it to you?  We underestimate the power of persuasion and charm?  Seriously?  

Move on with your life.  I don’t get people who do this beyond the age of 21 to themselves, I really don’t.  To interfere with this new chick is seriously a waste of your breath.  Get some new friends and some hobbies to keep yourself busy with this pointless crap.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I would want to know if my guy was cheating on me and I’d want to see proof when told. If you still have his text messages stating how he’s single and he wants to date you during the time they’re actually dating then I might send her a message as a courtesy with a screenshot and let her know you’re not trying to cause her any trouble but wanted to make sure she knew what kind of guy she was dating and then leave the ball in her court and walk away. And then I would be oh so done with that guy!

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

I totally understand why you had given this relationship many chances.  I’ve been there.

But definitely continue moving on with more determination than before.  I would let your anger/emotions settle first, and see if you still want to confront the new girl.  Most likely you won’t want to after you calm down.

Good luck to you, just continue to move on and no more looking back on this one.

 

Post # 37
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Busy bee

I get it. I’ve been there with persuasive guys and manipulators. But once you find out that someone has the ability to lie with such a straight face you know that will never change. All of these grand gestures he makes are just that, empty gestures. And saying all that stuff about how he thought he was one of the good guys – wow way to play the victim! Poor guy, I mean how awful for him having all these women! 

I know you say he’s in the public eye and I get that’s tough to see his face places etc, I’ve had friends go through the same. You know what doesn’t help? Turning up places he’ll be. Avoid those places. Avoid him. The more you get busy in your own life and fill your time with things you enjoy the less you’ll notice him. Eventually he’ll just be that scum bag music guy you can’t believe you dated. 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

The best revenge you can get is living a happy and fulfilling life without him.  Seriously, he’s wasted a year of your life with these games – drop him, block his number, and move on.  You deserve to be happy.  

She knew he was a cheater when their relationship started, if she’s nieve enough to think she can “change” him that’s her mistake to make, you don’t need to be a part of it. 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

mimiMobile:  You know who else are charming and convincing? Conmen! And they rob you blind too.  Don’t give him the opportunity to do this to you anymore.  Block his number and get on with your life.  You know he’s bad news, that’s why you left in the first place, no amount of good can ever make up for that.  He’s shown you time and again he has no interest in changing, which means YOU have to. 

Post # 40
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

mimiMobile:  do you really believe none of us has had to walk away from a charming, handsome, passionate  jerk? It’s not love;  love doesn’t feel like crap. This is a romantic delusion. 

The man is a jerk.

one day he will be old and ugly and no one will remember his name. If you’re thinking that would make it easier ( and honestly, your “love” for him sounds shallow because you keep mentioning superficial things but I’m sure it feels real to you), then it’s not love. 

Not trying to be harsh, but rather give you a nudge over this blind spot you have.  This isn’t love. 

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - County courthouse

Walk away. Don’t lower yourself to his level.

Post # 42
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You have no beef with her. She is not the one lying to you.

Post # 43
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

You’re angry because everything you say and do has had no effect on him. So you want to hurt her instead because you need SOMEONE else to hurt the same way you do. Don’t kid yourself and think you are being generous and telling her something she doesn’t know. This is vengeance, pure and simple. But the one who was foolish here was you. I know you don’t want to hear that or believe it, but you know it is true. Maintain your dignity and walk away.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I reckon she knows. Cut your losses and run.

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Walk away honey it won’t make you feel better and in the long run this girl will just get the same treatment by him 

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