Post # 1
A couple nights ago, Darling Husband tried to plug in his phone to charge it before bed, but neither of his chargers worked. I suggested that it was the phone that was broken, but he said that couldn’t possibly be the case because his car charger was working just fine. Even though it was super late, he spent thirty minutes tearing apart our bedroom looking for another charger and shouting about his phone. He said he couldn’t possibly go to bed without charging it because then he wouldn’t have a phone the next day, and besides, his phone is his alarm in the morning. I finally got him to go to bed by pointing out that he could use my alarm and then just charge his phone in the car on the way to work. He grumbled, but went to bed.
Fast forward to today. Darling Husband is taking the day off work today, and he and his buddies are heading out to the lake until Sunday. That’s fine. I’ll miss him bunches, but they’ll have a great time together. When I left for work this morning, I kissed him and made him promise me to text me bunches until he gets back.
Well, at 9:37 this morning, I got a text saying that his phone isn’t charging at all now, and it will be dead soon. I texted him back two minutes later to ask that he have it looked at before he left or something, but he didn’t respond. It’s been close to three hours now with no response, though I’ve texted him several times since.
I’m pissed now because I think his phone is completely dead, and he didn’t bother to take it to the store and get the battery replaced before he left. It wouldn’t have taken that long. He texted me at the last second without so much as an “I love you,” and I’ll bet he doesn’t even think to borrow his friend’s phone to text me again until late tonight or tomorrow at the earliest. He promised to text me a lot, and now he’s not going to, and I have no clue what’s going on down at the lake. I’m really annoyed by how he handled the situation because now he’s gone for three days and I have no way to easily contact him. 🙁
Boys are dumb.
ETA: He texted me about two minutes after I posted. This wouldn’t have actually been a big deal when he got home on Sunday if he hadn’t, though. I would have sat here stewing for the rest of the day at work, then gotten busy afterward and forgotten about. At most, I might have told him that I really would have appreciated it if he had at least borrowed someone’s phone to tell me that the phone was officially dead and that he loved me but wouldn’t be able to text, and he’ll see me on Sunday. I was just annoyed and ranting here.
Post # 3
they are dumb. my Boyfriend or Best Friend has lost his phone twice and he had to contact me from his dad’s phone or a friend’s. once his friend pushed him into a bush and somehow the bush must have eaten his phone – never found. another time, it slipped out of his pocket in a cab.
that is really frustrating. when he comes back, calmly talk it over with him, the situation could have been handled differently. all will be well 🙂
Post # 4
“Boys are dumb.” – This made me laugh. I think we’re with the same guy.
This is something my SO would totally do, so I feel your frustration. I say let it go, and enjoy the three days you have to yourself. Maybe hang out with some girlfriends, do stuff that you want to do, and have fun! It will be great to have him come home and you’re totally relaxed.
Post # 5
Oh, man, that would drive me nuts, too! *Sheesh* !!!
Post # 6
I really don’t think this would be an issue for me. People used to be incommunicado all the time before cell phones.
Peace and quiet while at the lake with his buddies would be great. We’re all big girls and can manage a weekend on our own.
Post # 7
Okay, I think he must be stalking me on the Bee somehow. I got a text about two minutes after posting my rant.
He said he’s keeping his phone on airplane mode most of the time to keep what little battery is left, and he’ll make sure to text me every so often. Even if his phone dies, he’ll steal one of his buddies’.
I forgive him for now. However, I stand by my statement that, in general, boys are dumb.
Post # 8
@julies1949: It’s not that I can’t manage it. I have plenty of fun things planned this weekend. I’m just annoyed that he promised to text me plenty, and then I thought he didn’t do something simple that would have fixed the problem. Darling Husband and I were on opposite sides of the planet for nine months. I’m not the sort of girl who can’t handle being away from him.
Post # 9
LOL…when SO and I had just started dating, or maybe just before we started dating, he went through 8 phones in 6 months. Dropped two in the lake while working on the old boat, accidently (?) threw one out the car window driving down the road, and lost the rest. He’s been good lately about it even if he can’t figure out how to use his Droid.
Post # 10
@julies1949: Agreed. If there was an emergency, I’m sure his buddies have working cells. He could have gone out of his way to fix the phone before he left, but he didn’t, so no use in being angry with him.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t get mad over this— he’s a big boy, and he needs to learn to take care of his things. I’m not his mommy. If he can’t figure out how to take his phone to get fixed, then he will need to figure out how to live without a phone. And a few days without a phone will teach him how and when to get the phone fixed.
As for the being incommunicado, I’d not be angry over that either. I don’t want him on an electronic dog collar. If he”s going away with his friends, then he should spend his time enjoying them, not checking in with me repeatdly. I enjoy going away with my friends and not having to check in all the time. We trust each other and while I do like to get an occasional, unexpected I Love You text, I actually quite enjoy it when he’s NOT in constant contact– that means he’s having a good time and enjoying himself!
Post # 12
I was gonna say. FI annoyed me when he went on his trip back to where we are from for 6 days and didnt bring a charger on purpose (he says he has forgetten too many and all chargers are universal now anyway). But he called me every night before he went to bed because it helped him sleep and sometimes during the day. It was nice to have the time apart but it was also nice to know I was on his mind.
Post # 13
Bah. I agree with you, boys are dumb sometimes.
Post # 14
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He’s having a guys weekend. Let him have a guys weekend.
He should spend this time enjoying hanging out with his friends, not spend it staring at a little screen. Tell him to put the phone away and get back to his friends.
Post # 15
@Mrs. Mink: +1 I love Fiance more than anything, but I value our time without each other almost as much as I value our time together.
Hopefully the whole battery issue this weekend will motivate him to replace his phone! Lol.
Post # 16
I’m not being a controlling wife here. The texts I was hoping for are a normal thing in our relationship. In the past when he’s gone on boys’ weekends, he’s sent them. When I’ve gone out with my friends, I’ve sent them (or gotten sad texts from him when I forgot). This isn’t me asking him to take time away from his weekend with the guys to pay attention to me. I was annoyed that he didn’t do something so he could text me like he normally would and like he would expect me to do if the circumstances were reversed. I’m not asking for anything unreasonable in our relationship, but thanks for thinking I am.