Post # 1
First off, I’ve been a big fan of this site since I got engaged… such a life-saver for advice with MANY things. But the one I’m here to discuss…rings. My first engagement ring was gorgeous (see previous posts for pics). It was a .8 carat round diamond with another .2 (.25? don’t remember) in channel-set diamonds on the band. Problem? Combination of channel-set diamonds on sensitive skin (moisture getting trapped underneath), as well as a reaction to the nickel used to plate the white gold. After 6 months, I had to exchange my ring. I was SO sad, but my then-FI upgraded the center diamond to 1 carat on a platinum band, to avoid allergic reaction. So, obviously, my originally-ordered channel-set white gold band had to go to. I ended up with a plain platinum band, which i LOVE and will wear until the day I die, no matter what finger its on.
My husband feels terrible that I didn’t get a diamond band for our wedding. It made sense though- unexpected money went into a new e-ring, and we are saving for a house and kiddies, both of which will probably start happening in 2014. So my question is– how common is it to get an “anniversary band” for 1 year? And, any suggestions for sensitive-skin girls like me? Any pics of diamond wedding bands are helpful…especially profile shots, since my e-ring is fairly low-profile. Again, there should be a pic or two in my previous posts.. I’m on DH’s computer, which has no easily-uploaded e-ring pics. Thanks for all your help as always, bees! You’ve gotten me through a lot! It’s hard to go through an engagament when you’re one of the first of your friends to marry… this site helped so much 🙂
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Oh… and I’d LOVE to stack my plain band, enagagement ring, and the new band so stacked ring pics welcome as well! For reference, I’ve included a pic of our bands… my ering is in my profile pic and previous posts.
Post # 4
Etiquette Snob here… lol
And Older Bee
“Anniversary Bands” as they are called, became all the rage in the 1980s… when the Diamond People / Jewellers were looking for ways to make more money… in a timeframe when Gold was thru the roof, and interest rates were ridiculous (over 20% on loans, over 35% on Credit).
Many Couples, myself included, just didn’t have the money to buy much more than a band with a wee chip of a Diamond.
Jewellers needed to find a NEW way to get people in the store… they created the Anniversary Band concept so as to attract people who were more established and had money in the bank.
The first Anniversary Bands were Eternity Rings and 3 Stone Rings (Past Present & Future)… they were typically given for a Significant Milestone… 10th, 15th, 20th, 25th Anniversary etc.
With the success of this campaign, they next went after the Newlyweds trying to market them a 3rd Ring to match the opposite side of their Interlocking Set (see photo below) this trend still continues today. The 3rd Band was most often given as a smaller Anniversary Present (1, 3, 5 etc) or for the Birth of a Baby
So to answer your Question… There is no RIGHT or WRONG in this regard any more. Update for an Milestone Event or When you can afford to / want to.
Hope this helps,
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@Kay1126: I don’t know much about allergies but you said getting water trapped under the stones was a problem. How about something like the t&co bezet band (I think its called??) With the pretty bezel set diamonds? Btw love your plain platinum band!!
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@This Time Round: very interesting, thanks for the info! Made me feel a little less selfish that it’s more common than I thought… Even if it is DH’s idea 😉
@wrkbrk: beautiful, thanks so much for the suggestion! Definitely something to look into.. And thanks for the compliment 🙂 I definitely want to incorporate my current band into whatever I end up doing.
Post # 6
Kay1126: I know that this may be too late for you now but since you loved your channel-set band so much, have you considered getting one that does not have holes on the underside where the diamonds are. This would solve the trapped water issue.
If your ones year had passed, I hope you found something suitable! 🙂