Post # 1
I’m thinking about skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. Every one that I’ve been to has had one and they’re great and all, but they’re not really my style. I personally feel uncomfortable when I’m asked to go to the dance floor to compete with other guests for a bouquet. Instead, I’d like to do an anniversary dance..for those of you who may not know, that’s where you have the dj/band ask all the couples to take the dance floor. Then you pick increments and after so long you ask people who’ve been together ____ years to take a seat. You keep doing that until one couple is left. Then I’ve heard of different “prizes” you can honor them with, but I’d probably give them my toss bouquet and a bottle of wine. And probably ask them to give us (the newlyweds) a bit of advice.
Anyone who has done this that can share tips or just say in general how their experience wth it went, that would be great.
Post # 2
I haven’t done it (not married yet) but if you are doing one or another, I much prefer the aniversary dance. I wouldn’t even worry about a “prize” unless you are dead set on it. I would probably just stick with the bottle of wine and do nothing with your toss bouquet (better yet, don’t get one and don’t pay your flowerist for one) Unless you are 100% sure that it will be your grandparents, it will probably end up left behind or in the garbage.
Most of the aniversary dances I have seen are very good. I would make sure to pick a song that everyone can get into. Something old school like Frank Sinatra is usually a great choice. Find a longer song 5-6 minutes so people aren’t sitting down after five seconds.
Post # 3
marinesfiance: We are doing this at our wedding! I knew right off the bat I didn’t want to do a bouquet toss, and this was the very next thing I thought of and luckily, Fiance really liked the idea too. Although, I’ll admit…it might kinda be cheating…bc we know my grandparents will be the last ones on the dance floor. lol
Post # 4
No tosses (bouquet/garter) here! I never thought about the anniversary dance, though. I think that’s a really sweet idea!
I think that would be great for you! It’s such a nice way to honor the love in your family.
Post # 5
I think those are pretty cute, we didn’t do one at our wedding though. We also didn’t do the bouquet or garter toss, we didn’t replace it with anything, we just didn’t do it.
Post # 6
Wow! I have never heard of this, but I love it!! You should totally do it!
Post # 7
We did this at our wedding and it seemed like everyone really enjoyed it! Afterwards everyone was talking about how many years they had been married for and I was surprised at some of the lengthier ones. We knew we would not have many single people at our wedding so we didn’t want them to feel obligated to participate in a bouquet/garter toss.
My grandparents ended up winning and my grandma cried when I gave her my toss bouquet. I think it’s a really cool thing to see at weddings!
Post # 8
hazyleyedbeauty: Haha well there ya go! It’ll mean that much more to you guys then!
JackiBean: Thanks! I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks bouquet tosses are yucky.
MsJ2theZ: Was anyone surpised or disappointed that you didn’t ‘follow tradition’?
Misswhowedding: Good point. Maybe just the bottle of wine then..I just thought it would be cute to hand her the bouquet and say something along the lines of once a bride always a bride. And for the song, I was thinking about George Strait’s ‘I Cross My Heart’ it’s a nice classic song and the part where it says ‘you’ll never find a love as true as mine’ gets me every time. Not sure how long it is, though. Maybe we could keep it on loop and have it play twice or something?
MrsBeck: Aww! I just think it’s so cute when I see pictures or videos of this being done. It just brings tears to my eyes to see them as in love as they were the day they got married :’)
Post # 9
marinesfiance: No I highly doubt it. Honestly I’m not a big fan of the toss’s anymore when I go to weddings, and 99% of our guests were married so they were probably happier to keep drinking and playing games and dancing than to stop for “traditions”.