(Closed) Anniversary over – and still no ring

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Boo, that’s hard.  Waiting really sucks.  At least you’re doing something productive (gym), so that’s a positive!  *hugs*

Post # 4
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@readynwaiting58:  That sucks, but I don’t get why people expect proposals on holidays like Xmas or anniversaries. That’s so cliche.

He could propose on ANY day between now and your next anniversary. If I were you, I would seriously consider leaving him if he doesn’t propose by your third anniversary. You seem to be going crazy already. I’m not saying he “owes” you a proposal or anything, but we all have our own timelines, right? I think that by 3 years in he should know if he wants to marry you or not.

Post # 6
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@readynwaiting58:  So this is a really good sign, right?

Your follow-up post indicates to me that you need to relax a little. It sounds like you will get a ring in the next year πŸ™‚


Post # 8
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@readynwaiting58:  I understand your frustration – I am waiting too (but for diff. reasons). I guess I am trying to reassure you that at least you’re not in a situation where you’re not sure if you’re wasting your 20s on the guy – that would be much worse. But I would put money on the fact that he will propose in the next 12 months. πŸ˜€

Post # 9
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Girl he doesn’t sound ready, you have got to relax or you’re going to drive yourself and him crazy!!!

Post # 11
3421 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I feel you. I already know that it isn’t gonna happen for our 5th…. *sadness*. But he tells me he should have the money to put for the ring the month after so hopefully i will be with you for the year’s end club.

Post # 12
44 posts

I’m almost positive that I will be in your shoes in less than a month.  My three year anniversary is coming up and although we’ve talked about getting engaged, we’ve talked about ring styles and budget and the money is there, I just don’t think it’s gonna happen.  And I’m trying to keep my chin up, but holy hell it’s hard!  I want to spend the rest of my life with my SO he just needs to get a move on!  The best thing to do, is to talk about it in a no pressure situation.  I had an open and honest discussion with my SO a few months ago, an since then it’s something we can discus without either of us getting hurt.  

Just make sure that you want to be engaged for all the right reasons and it’ll happen. 

Post # 13
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

To me it sounds like – if he said completely on his own with no poking or proding, that he wanted to get married, right away, the crickets you experienced is because he doesn’t want to ruin the surprise.

But that is my two sense & I could be completely wrong.


Post # 15
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If he seems surprised that it’s on your mind, that tells me that you haven’t had a real, honest, deep conversation about your future and what you want. Which isn’t good. I’d suggest that you both outline your hopes and expectations, stat.

Post # 16
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I totally understand. My SO came to visit me in Florida( I worked at Disney) for his birthday a week in april. It has always been my dream to be proposed to in front of Cinderella Catsle.. but it didnt happen… Then he came back for our 4 year aniversary in May! I just knew he was going to propose but it did not happen.. I realized and he has even said it.. that it will hapen when i least expect it! I overheard maybe my college graduation in May.. Valentines hey maybe before 2013 even hits! So I totally get where you are coming from I guess we got a little while longer to go πŸ™‚

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