Post # 1
So my fiance (fiancee? I can never remember which is which) proposed on January 30, 2009. We met January 20, 2006 and we’ve been celebrating the 20th as our anniversary. We’re planning on getting married October 10, 2010. Which date do we say is our anniversary? The 10th, 20th, or 30th? Or do we just average it out and say it was the 20th? I think it should be the 10th, but then we’re kind of saying that we’re throwing away the 4 years that we’d have been together… and literally starting over… but that’s sort of what a wedding is, is it not? Or should we celebrate all of them and have a party every 10 days every month?
I guess it’s really up to us, but does anyone know what the "Martha Stewart" answer would be?
Post # 3
We celebrated the anniversary of our first date before we were married. Now that we’re married we are going to celebrate our wedding anniversary.
Post # 4
Just have a party every ten days!
For us, our formal anniversary will be the wedding date. And it isn’t throwing away the four years (or in our case 6 months!) that you have been together…it is the day you said your vows!
We do also celebrate the anniversary of our first date, and the engagement date. For christmas, we got a magnet with a boy bear proposing to a girl bear and our engagement date printed on it.
The anniversaries of our first date and engagement date are more for us privately.
Post # 5
We have celebrated our first-date-a-versary and our engage-a-versary, but now that we’re married, we are using that as our "new anniversary yard stick." But I say, if you guys want reasons to have an extra special date or something to celebrate, celebrate all three!
Post # 6
I agree with everyone — celebrate whatever you want! I think if you are looking for a "typical" answer – most people celebrate their wedding anniversary … when someone asks you how long you’ve been married, or what your anniversary is you could say something like "We’ve been married for two years on October 10th but we dated for four years before we got married" …
For us we have so many different dates since we met and dated briefly then separated for a few years (and honestly remained great friends, it was just distance and we were young) and then we reconnected on a specific date, but our first date is different, and our engagement is a different date … we just celebrate all the time! 🙂 Poor guy, he seriously has like 5 dates to remember!! ha
Post # 7
Right before we got married, I also had the same question! Do we celebrate the date we started dating, our courthouse wedding date or our actual wedding date? Hubby said I could only pick one >"<. Since I love our wedding date, I decided 8.8 will be the one celebrate going forward.
Post # 8
I believe the "Martha Stewart" answer would be the date of your wedding. I understand your thinking about throwing the last 4 years away. My fiance and I dated for 7 years before we got engaged and I sometimes feel that the wedding date will erase that too, but ours will be very close together (Dating: Oct. 6, Wedding: Oct. 17). Go with what makes you happy!
Post # 9
I would say that your anniversary is the wedding date, but there’s nothing wrong with saying "We’ve been married for 2 years, but together for 6" or whatever the case may be…
Post # 10
I agree with personal choice! Our personal choice is our wedding date.
Post # 11
I agree with using the wedding date as the official anniversary, but privately celebrating any other dates that are important to you.
And just for the record, fiance is male, fiancee is female. Just fyi. I keep wanting to correct everyone who uses the wrong one, cause I’m super ocd about spelling. But that’d be a bit rude, no? ^_^