Post # 1
My DH’s grandfather passed away Tuesday morning, and we had the funeral yesterday afternoon. When the Rabbi was reading off the grandchildren’s names, he said ‘DH’s name’ and ‘his wife, my name’ and then said “and on a side note, I hear that congratulations are in order”.
Well yeah, we got married in September, so it was obvious to my Darling Husband and his immediate family that was what he was congratulating us for.
Well, I guess it wasn’t so obvious to the other 200 people in the room, because at the lunch afterwards, streams of people were coming up to me, my Darling Husband, his parents, and his grandmother and congratulating us on our pregnancy. It was so awkward, especially given the circumstances of the funeral. I felt especially bad for his grandmother, who kept having to explain to people that no, she was not becoming a great grandmonther.
What is wrong with people???
Post # 3
Oh my gosh! How awkward! And at a funeral of all places. Sorry about the loss of your grandfather-in-law. 🙁
Post # 4
Yikes- he shouldn’t have done that- major fail!
Post # 5
He definitely should not have said it like that. “I hear that congratulations are in order” is really only said about a pregnacny (at least in my experience). “And congratulations on the recent wedding/your recent nuptuals would have been better”
I’m sorry that it was so awkward for you, but at least you know that people where nice enough to come up and say congrats.
Post # 6
I just had an awkard pregnancy moment at my grandpa’s funeral. Nobody in my family knew I was preggo, except my grandma b/c my dad wanted her to tell my grandpa before he passed. My grandma didn’t want me to go b/c she thought if I get sad, it will hurt the baby. So I walk in and she starts screaming at me on the top of her lungs. “I don’t want you here! Why are you here? Go home!” Meanwhile my whole family is around and must have thought I did something awful to my grandma to get kicked out of my grandpa’s funeral. Finally they caught on, and that’s how my good news got out.
Post # 7
Eek, that is awkward! And so is your colors. I think funerals bring out awkward social interactions in general.
Post # 8
Irony of life 🙂 Pregnancy news at funerals. Adds joy and hope to a sad day 🙂
Post # 9
My condolences on the death of DH’s grandpa, and I give you credit for being strong enough to get through that social situation without running from the room. Ouch! Is it something that happens after being married a few months that people just assume? Two times now at family functions I’ve started a conversation with “Oh, by the way…” and I’ve been interrupted with a squeal and a “You’re pregnant!?” Um, NO. Maybe it’s the older generation?
Post # 10
🙂 I hate when people stick noses in your life like that. I am ukrainian (now live in US for long time), and in Ukraine/Russia things are even worse. People often assume that you are pregnant AT THE TIME of your wedding. LIke you get married because you are pregnant. They can’t think that you are getting married because you love each other and want to spend life together, but rather because you wanted to get married and the guy didn’t,so you got pregnant purposely to marry him…Man…It’s maybe an economics issue, most people are poor and girls use all ways to get married idk :(….When my own cousin announced that she is getting married my mom was like “Oh look at her, she is pregnant, I’m telling you, that’s why she is rushing the wedding” and I was like “OMG mom, she is not pregnant, why you think people get married just because they are pregnant??” and she said “We will all see that she will be getting married with the bump.”…
So now my cousin has been married for 5 years….and still not pregnant 🙂