Post # 1
Hi bees! It’s been a while, I hope you’re all doing well. Soooo exciting times here! Our wedding is about a month away (AH!) and our two very very good friends will be getting engaged the day before. I helped him pick the ring, because she gave me a run down of likes and dislikes and a range of styles, so the only thing she doesn’t know is when it’ll happen.
I don’t have many single friends coming to our wedding, most are couples, so I don’t want to toss a bouquet. My florist, however, is giving me an extra to toss in case I change my mind. I want to celebrate the fact that they got engaged somehow – would it be weird to do a little congratulations toast and give her the extra bouquet? She doesn’t have much family and his family is very small and just suffered a major death, so I know there won’t be a big celebration for their engagement.
Is that weird of me to do? I honestly can’t tell.
Post # 2
I dont think it’s weird at all, just the opposite I think it’s very kind and gracious of you to do that!
Post # 3
Depends on the couple. I personally would not enjoy that attention especially in someone elses party, but I know people that would love it adnd enjoy the gesture. Are you sure tha they want to share the news the day after the engagement and they have already informed the people they want to inform? I propably wouldn’t unless you are 100% certain that they are comfortable with it and the proposal went according to plan. But you know your friends.
Post # 4
I think this is a lovely idea and a really nice thing for you to do. It will be such a nice thing for her especially after a loss xx
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I think you should make sure they have told everyone they want to tell before making an announcement about it. But other than that if you’d like to celebrate their engagement I think that’s fine.
Post # 6
I think it is sweet! I might have the Fiance in on it though
Post # 7
I’m not going to lie I was ready to rip you apart with the thread title!!
But actually i think its really sweet! But I agree with PP that you need to check they are happy (even if it’s at the beginning of the day via best man or someone) for this to happen!
Post # 8
+1. And make sure they’re ok with the attention. I personally dislike being the center of attention, but this couple may not mind it. Either way, it sounds like you’re trying to do something really kind for them!
Post # 9
It would be rude of them to call attention to their own engagement, but as a gesture coming from you it is very charming and generous!
Post # 10
Exactly this. If they drew attention, it’s tacky. If you highlight it, it is sweet and charming. “And to the newly engaged couple ____ we wish you as much joy in planning as we did, many blessings to you!” or something cute like that.
Post # 11
I think it depends on them. If I was your friend I would hate the attention. I wouldn’t say anything, but it would make me very uncomfortable. I also had not finished contacting everyone a day after getting engaged. So I would not have wanted a big announcement.
But if your friends are up for it, I don’t see why not.
Post # 12
bumblebug : I also had not finished contacting everyone a day after getting engaged
This is a great point actually. They might want not a bunch of randos knowing their big news before friends and family. Either way OP, just check with them before doing anything. I think its a beautiful gesture!
Post # 13
how absolutely sweet of you to celebrate someone else at your wedding. Such a breath of fresh air from all the “ME! ME! ME!” brides out there. I think it speaks volumes of your character ☺️
Post # 14
That’s really sweet of you!! I think it’s fine (as long as your friend wouldn’t be totally mortified to be in the spotlight for a few seconds).
Post # 15
I think it’s very sweet of you!