Post # 1
After SO and I get engaged (soon), I’d prefer to tell people the big news in person or over the phone/text – I’m not so keen on a facebook announcement, although it’s possible we may do that down the line. I’m wondering if it’s okay for SO and I to tell our immediate family ourselves, and then have our moms/dads call their siblings (our aunts/uncles) and let them trickle the news down to our cousins? There are A LOT of aunts/uncles and cousins so this seems to be a simple way to spread the news without us having to call 100 people. We would call living grandparents and close friends ourselves. We are also closer to specific aunts/uncles and cousins than others, but I don’t know if it’d be okay to call some directly and not others. Don’t want any hurt feelings.
Please share what you did as well! Everyone is different so I’d love to hear your perspective.
Post # 2
We called our parents and texted siblings and close friends. Everyone else found out from trickle of info or social media.
Post # 3
depends on the family.. I think in our family people have told parents, siblings and grandparents Rest just find out through the grapevine. but depends on your relationship with your family.
Post # 4
I told an aunt I’m close with but idk if my other aunt and uncle or my cousins even know. I’m not close with them so it’d have been pretty bizarre for me to inform them. I told my daughter right away the same day. I was seeing my parents a couple days after so I told them in person, and I texted my sister, aunt, 2 BFFs, and one longtime friend. Fiance called his mom and texted his 3 siblings. Everyone else heard on fb.
Post # 5
We called parents and grandparents, and texted siblings (we would have called, but we were overseas). Everyone else was told either by them or Facebook.
Post # 6
Thanks everyone, this has been helpful and interesting. Spin-off question – how long did you wait until posting an announcement online? Just wondering how much time is appropriate if we’re expecting our parents to inform some other relatives. I wouldn’t want most of our family to find out initially from facebook – I think it would lead to some ruffled feathers.
Post # 7
We called his parents, told most of my family in person because we were already planning to see them the next day, and texted or emailed the remaining siblings/close friends.
We just waited to post on social media until we’d told our close family members and friends since we wanted them to hear from us first.
Post # 8
We both have tiny families so we told our parents, I group texted my aunt and uncle and cousins (DH has none) and then we posted the announcement on FB that same day.
Post # 9
We got engaged Saturday and posted it Tuesday night
Post # 10
We called my parents and brother and told my husband’s parents/siblings in person. We let them tell extended family or they found out about it through Facebook.
Post # 11
We called/texted our parents (weren’t in the same city at the time) and siblings. Once they knew we made a FB post a few hours later. I’m not close with anyone in my family & fiance has a huge family, so social media was the best way to get the news out.
Post # 12
We did not post on Facebook. We called our parents, siblings, and close friends, and everyone else just found out eventually.
Post # 13
We called my parents (his were there for the proposal!), our siblings, our grandparents, some of our aunts and uncles. Texted friends, cousins, some other family members. Got engaged in the morning, posted it on Facebook after we had contacted everyone, which was later that afternoon. Funnily, one of his friends from high school’s mothers dropped by the house for a completely unrelated purpose right after we got home from the proposal, so she found out (and told her daughter and her daughter told her friends) before we had a chance to tell pretty much anyone else. So VIPs and random coincidental neighbor found out pre-Facebook 🙂
Post # 14
I saw my parents that night and we told them in person. His parents already knew the plan but we called them that night. My parents called my siblings. I texted my best friends. He texted his best friends. I never posted anything about it in particular on social media. Don’t have a Facebook. Word got around naturally.
Post # 15
We told our parents, godparents and a few close friends first. Parents told siblings,aunts and uncles etc. We made a very simple post on social media once they had all been told.