Post # 1
So, I work in a small office. My boss and I, and my old boss and and a new girl sit on one side, and about six other people sit across the hall.
I’m not someone who attracts attention to herself. (anymore!) This will be my 2nd marriage. I knew the engagement was coming, and mentioned that it was to my boss and the girl that sits in the office next door who I’ve worked with for 4 years and I’m friendly with.
Fiance proposed last Thursday, so Friday I had the ring. Am I supposed to walk up to people and tell them and wave my hand around?
I haven’t said anything, figuring if someone notices, I’ll tell them but am I wrong. The girl in the office next door noticed Monday and nearly playfully chopped my head off for staying quiet about it, and then the new girl overheard and was all fawning over the whole thing. I just felt awkward.
I don’t know why I feel so funny about it. Anyone else feel this way? Should I have walked to each person and told them? Tell one and see if news travels?
Post # 3
Hmm, the way I did it was I kind of waved my bejeweled (haha) hand coyly to my bosses (I had been talking about getting engaged FOR-EV-ER, though…lol) then one of them told the rest of our group! LOL
If you want to be private about it though, maybe just let people notice and let the good news travel through word of mouth?
Post # 4
I just let everyone notice.
They were all excited and happy and very cute about it – apparently they’d been taking bets on which vacation it was going to be during hahah.
I don’t like attention so I was fine with everyone figuring it out on their own.
My boss asked me if he could make an announcement, and I said yes.
My company has 100 people, and he likes to make announcments.
Now, the thing I am NOT planning on announcing to the whole at ALL is my wedding.
So far: so good. yeeessss
Post # 5
I say let people notice on their own… word will spread naturally that way. it seems a little attention-seeky to be like LOOK AT ME, I’M ENGAGED.
Post # 6
I also work in a really small office. The Tuesday after I got engaged (it was a long weekend), I came in and stopped by my boss’ office like I always do. She asked how my weekend was and I told her I got engaged. From there, I let the news spread (another co-worker overheard when I was talking to my boss). I am not really an attention-seeker, so it seemed like an effective and appropriate way.
Post # 7
@jennnin: I am planning to not say anything but mainly because I have decided to be more private about my life at work. The people at my job must have very boring lives because all they do is ask you a thousand questions if you tell them one thing and they share that info as many people as possible, I just don’t feel like dealing them, so if someone notices I plan on just being like oh yeah that happened awhile ago,I am very excited. And trying to leave it at that. Let’s see if it works though because their nosiness is really unsurpassed.
Post # 8
I felt so awkward doing this. I don’t know, I just felt like it was too braggy for me to do haha. Even though if someone else did it I wouldn’t think it was braggy. I’ve just never been the type to bring that kind of attention to my personal life, but we have A LOT of oversharers in my office so maybe thats why I’m turned off by the idea lol.
Anyway I just quietly told a few people that I often talk to in the office and they spread the word.
Post # 9
Um, I definitely couldn’t help but walk around beaming with my hand raised. lol I think it depends on a person’s personality. But I think the general expectation we have of others is for them to share important news.
Post # 10
@jennnin: I mostly just let people notice the ring. My office is fairly small as well (about 15 people here). After a couple of months the office manager still hadn’t noticed it so I brought it up in conversation like she did know. Kind of like, “With the wedding in April, blah blah blah” and went from there.
Post # 11
Thank you! I feel better about it…I was thinking let news travel on it’s own as people noticed. I may go into my boss’ office this morning and tell her like oh..btw..
My co-worker made me second guess how I was handling my news distribution. lol..I’m glad I’m not the only one who would rather be more quiet about it…at least at work. 😉
I guess it all depends on what you’re comfortable with. 🙂 Thanks for the input, ladies!
Post # 12
I work in a 65 person office & about 55 are women. I’m not really an attention seeker, so I told a couple of people and let it spread. Some people saw the ring immee, others came up 6 months later asking “did I hear you got engaged?”
Post # 13
I got engaged right before Christmas so I didn’t see most coworkers til January 2. Then when people asked how my Christmas was I told them I got some new jewelry. Most of my close coworkers knew I was waiting so it was fun to watch their faces change from “oh that’s nice” to “OH MY GOD NO WAY!”
Post # 14
I didn’t make an announcement. I told one person at work who is a friend. He kept the news to himself bexause friends don’t gossip even at work. Then, one day I was with my manager and she noticed my ring. I told her yep I was engaged. That’s when the news traveled because apparently managers gossip. Lol
Post # 15
@jennnin: i told 2 people i think when i got engaged. My boss who i am close with and another girl. Word slowly spread after that and then it got put in the company newsletter. Some people were like “why didn’t you say anything?” but honestly i’m not one to bring my personal life to work so it just wasnt me to do that.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Sounds like you’re handling it the “right” way. Another thing to consider- are you inviting any of these people to the wedding? If not, you certainly don’t need to make a point of a grand “announcement.”