(Closed) Announcing our engagement days prior to a 1st birthday – good or bad idea?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Announce it. Your friend doesn’t get a week, or two weeks, just because her child turned one. She doesn’t own the rule, or Facebook. If she cannot ‘share the light’ with you, she has her own problems.

Post # 17
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

The little guy is only going to be able to be held by so many people at any given time anyway. When adults attend a child’s birthday there is always chatter amongst them that doesn’t pertain to the baby (who really has no idea what’s going on anyway). I say announce before! 🙂 congratulations!!

Post # 18
1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

So I don’t really get the stealing thunder thing, but omg it’s a birthday party, there is NO thunder to steal lol, it’s not like the kid was literally just born which is a big event.  Birthday parties are not even necessary. Does the kid (mom) need a day for attention on her? Weird.

Not attacking your post, but the idea of anyone being offended by anything because it was close to  BIRTHDAY PARTY doesn’t even make sense lol

Post # 19
6002 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State


JessieFay13:  people are more than capable of being happy about two happy life events for their friends at the same time. It’s not necessary to hold back due to a completely separate thing such as a child’s 1st birthday. People will make conversation at that party about far more than little johnny turning one. your engagement should be announced whenever you want. Including now.

Post # 20
2368 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

The baby’s first birthday has nothing to do with your engagement lol. That is taking the idea of “not stepping on anyone else’s event” way too far!

What if 2 friends each had a child with the same birthday? they could never speak to each other again! Yes I am being sarcastic.

Post # 21
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you can put it on facebook and not worry about it and like PP’s said – just say thanks if you get congratulated at the birthday party.. It’s nice that you’re being considerate, but honestly there is way too much importance placed on ‘announcing’ on social media these days – you’re not announcing that the pope has died. Sorry, you have every right to be over the moon excited about your news – you’ll get a hundred likes from people who were all signed in that day and life will go on. Don’t worry about it and just enjoy for you two, not whatever reaction you think you might get.

Post # 22
9635 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

the last first birthday party i went to had a handful of kids all under 5 and about 30 adults.  a couple had just gotten engaged and DH and I had had our wedding a few months before.  there was lots of talks about our wedding/honeymoon and the couple’s engagement and no one was offended at all, not even the mother of the child who couldn’t wait to hear all about our honeymoon.

why should anyone be offended if people want to congratulate you?

Post # 23
1591 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think it’s really thoughtful of you to even consider not announcing! But, like PPs have said, the events are totally unrelated and there really isn’t much thunder to steal, so announce away! 🙂 Congratulations btw!

Post # 24
5866 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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JessieFay13:  Hang on…people have “thunder” about 1st birthday parties now?  This thunder thing is way out of control!

You get points for wanting to be super considerate.  However, it’s totally find to announce your engagement via facebook a few days prior to a friend’s child’s 1st bithday party.  Post away.

Post # 25
415 posts
Helper bee

Stealing thunder, seriously? That’s ridiculous.

If anyone in your social circle thinks you’re “stealing thunder” by announcing your engagement before a kid’s birthday party…. then you need new friends. 

Post # 26
2875 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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JessieFay13:  Is the kid’s name Thor by any chance?

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