Post # 16
Announce it. Your friend doesn’t get a week, or two weeks, just because her child turned one. She doesn’t own the rule, or Facebook. If she cannot ‘share the light’ with you, she has her own problems.
Post # 17
The little guy is only going to be able to be held by so many people at any given time anyway. When adults attend a child’s birthday there is always chatter amongst them that doesn’t pertain to the baby (who really has no idea what’s going on anyway). I say announce before! 🙂 congratulations!!
Post # 18
So I don’t really get the stealing thunder thing, but omg it’s a birthday party, there is NO thunder to steal lol, it’s not like the kid was literally just born which is a big event. Birthday parties are not even necessary. Does the kid (mom) need a day for attention on her? Weird.
Not attacking your post, but the idea of anyone being offended by anything because it was close to BIRTHDAY PARTY doesn’t even make sense lol
Post # 19
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
JessieFay13: people are more than capable of being happy about two happy life events for their friends at the same time. It’s not necessary to hold back due to a completely separate thing such as a child’s 1st birthday. People will make conversation at that party about far more than little johnny turning one. your engagement should be announced whenever you want. Including now.
Post # 20
The baby’s first birthday has nothing to do with your engagement lol. That is taking the idea of “not stepping on anyone else’s event” way too far!
What if 2 friends each had a child with the same birthday? they could never speak to each other again! Yes I am being sarcastic.
Post # 21
I think you can put it on facebook and not worry about it and like PP’s said – just say thanks if you get congratulated at the birthday party.. It’s nice that you’re being considerate, but honestly there is way too much importance placed on ‘announcing’ on social media these days – you’re not announcing that the pope has died. Sorry, you have every right to be over the moon excited about your news – you’ll get a hundred likes from people who were all signed in that day and life will go on. Don’t worry about it and just enjoy for you two, not whatever reaction you think you might get.
Post # 22
the last first birthday party i went to had a handful of kids all under 5 and about 30 adults. a couple had just gotten engaged and DH and I had had our wedding a few months before. there was lots of talks about our wedding/honeymoon and the couple’s engagement and no one was offended at all, not even the mother of the child who couldn’t wait to hear all about our honeymoon.
why should anyone be offended if people want to congratulate you?
Post # 23
I think it’s really thoughtful of you to even consider not announcing! But, like PPs have said, the events are totally unrelated and there really isn’t much thunder to steal, so announce away! 🙂 Congratulations btw!
Post # 24
Hang on…people have “thunder” about 1st birthday parties now? This thunder thing is way out of control!
You get points for wanting to be super considerate. However, it’s totally find to announce your engagement via facebook a few days prior to a friend’s child’s 1st bithday party. Post away.
Post # 25
Stealing thunder, seriously? That’s ridiculous.
If anyone in your social circle thinks you’re “stealing thunder” by announcing your engagement before a kid’s birthday party…. then you need new friends.
Post # 26
Is the kid’s name Thor by any chance?
Post # 27
Thanks, bees! We went ahead and announced as planned (just changed our relationship status, but it seemed announcement enough). My friend, whose son’s birthday party it was, was perfectly fine and very happy for us but her mother and sister gave us a very frosty reception!! It was very awkward, as they were the ones who let us in – her sister gave us a grudging congratulations, whilst her mother was just downright rude about it. We just decided to avoid them for the afternoon and everyone else was happy and supportive.