Post # 1
I have a question… I will be graduating from medical school shortly before I get married (woohoo for a crazy and busy May!). I was thinking about how we were going to be announced and I am having some difficulty. I assumed (bad to do as part of a couple) that it would Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe (for example). He pointed prefers Mr. & Dr. John Doe. I hate the his first name only component– I am feel like I am already taking his last name– NOT his first name… I need to retain some of my individuality.
What do you think of being Mrs. instead of Dr? I know that technically that is my new title, but I feel like the more important part of the day is the “Mrs.” not the “Dr.”.
And is anybody else NOT comfortable with being called his first name in the announcement? I know it is traditional, but I get uncomfortable.
Post # 3
I would say Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe if you’re comfortable with that. I personally like the Mr. and Mrs. John Doe because it is tradional and I just like the way it sounds, but there’s nothing wrong with putting your first name, I’m sure that is just as common in most places. But I would definitely leave off the Dr. part, that just sounds awkward to me.
Post # 4
I don’t like being called by his first name. The only person who ever did it was my grandmother and I really hated it. If you want to have it be Mrs, then go for that!
Post # 5
Technically, if you’re using Dr., I believe you should be introduced as Dr. and Mr. Jane and John Doe.
Post # 6
No, tons of women are uncomfortable with being referred to as Mrs. His first His last. But if I were you, I’d be celebrating that MD and go with Mr and Dr. Last name, or just Mr. and Mrs. Last name if that is what you want! All in all, the anouncement isn’t really important to anyone but you and your FI, so do what you want!
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Post # 8
At my sister’s wedding, they were introduced as “John and Jane Doe”. No titles.
Post # 9
Well, if it were ME I’d want the Dr, because you worked hard for it, dang it! But I have friends who are doctors and I think I remember them always being announced as Mr. and Mrs.
But, regardless, you could always do Mr. John and Mrs (or Dr.) Jane Doe – I think that is more “proper” than Mr & Mrs John and Jane Doe but I’m not sure…it sounds better to me, at least!
Post # 10
For invitations it is supposed to be Dr. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe (supposedly because Dr. outranks Mr.) For the announced entrance, I’d probably go with Mr. and Mrs. John Doe or Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe. It is considered perfectly appropriate to go this route socially. Traditionally it was preferred, now, of course, it’s up to the woman. Another way you could be announced would be Jane and John Doe.
Mr. and Dr. John Doe is not correct.
Post # 11
@Spartanbee: I’m in no way comfortable with being called his first name. I would leave the doctor part and have Mr and Mrs Doe
Post # 12
Eh, I will get the title of Dr. in May when I graduate as well, and we are getting married in June. I am still going to be addressed as Mrs when we are announced. This is not the time to remind everyone that I have my doctorate, it is a time to try out my NEW title of Mrs.
I would not really care either way if it was Mr and Mrs John and Jane Doe or just Mr and Mrs John Doe, but I think we are having both of our names announced.
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Post # 14
I selected the last option but I would actually say “mr john and Dr jane doe”. Ypu worked hard for your MD and I think you should be proud to use the title and keep your first name as part of your identity.
Post # 15
Mrs. because it emphasizes that you’re now married. Prior to your wedding you were a doctor and after the wedding you’re a doctor. The day is about your marriage so I would highlight it by saying Mrs.
To be honest with you when people go out of their way to announce/point out that they are a doctor (or any other title that is irrelevant at the moment), although it is an amazing achievement that they should be proud of, I feel like they are a little pretentious. I typically just roll my eyes :-/
Post # 16
I prefer John and Jane Doe. No Mr or Mrs or Dr. Lets you both be yourself and come across as a family unit.