Post # 1
Anyone have experience in being sensitive to sharing pregnancy news with someone you know has suffered a miscarriage?
We are wanting to start telling our family, but I struggle with how to announce to my bil and sil, who lost their pregnancy last spring. I’d love to be able to do a big family announcement, but I question if that’s appropriate, given their loss.
I’d love any thoughts!
Post # 3
You can do a big family announcement if you want to but I would recommend telling them beforehand alone so that they have to process their own emotions without an audience.
Post # 4
I’ve never miscarried, but it’s taking us a really long time to conceive. Everybody’s going to be different, but I really prefer to find out about other people’s pregnancies via email or telephone. I still really want all my family and friends to only see me being happy for them. So email especially lets me read, process, be sad, and then when I see them in person, I’m able to be outwardly happy for them better.
But you know your family best. Some people might be offended that they weren’t told in person, so I dunno… I think just the fact that you’re trying to be sensitive is very thoughtful.
Post # 5
@Sea_bass: +1. I think this is a very considerate and thoughtful approach, and I’m sure they will appreciate being able to process it and their emotions without everyone around them being super excited. They are going to be thrilled for you, they just might need their personal moment to take it in first.
You are very kind to think of them and be so sensitive to their feelings. 🙂
Post # 6
I agree with PPs. It’s very considerate of you to think of them during this exciting time for you. Like the other bees have suggested, letting them know ahead of time and telling them when you intend to announce to the family will give them time to process it privately and not be surprised in the middle of a crowd.